The 3 Steps for Regaining Security, Post-Affair

March 25th, 2015

Presently, after the affair, your world may feel untethered. You may have lost a sense of security that your marriage once provided and the feel of a firm foundation beneath you.

Perhaps you have a family to consider, children who could be negatively impacted by your cheating spouse’s decisions. You have your marriage to consider, asking yourself whether you should try to save your marriage. You may also have a job to juggle—your emotional pain and turmoil throwing off your ability to focus.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why it’s essential that you focus on yourself, and provide some steps you can take to dig deep and regain a sense of security that can only be found in you. Read on…

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The Emotional Affair: Take the Test

March 23rd, 2015

How do you know whether you—or your spouse—is involved in an emotional affair?

There are fine lines that can be crossed before you realize it… and suddenly, an attachment has been formed to someone outside of your marriage.

Maybe you suspect your spouse has crossed the line into an emotional affair, or you’re afraid that you may be in danger.

In this blog, you can take an informal test to see if either you, or your spouse, are involved in an emotional affair. Please keep reading…

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Spouse Cheated: Now, What’s Best for You?

March 18th, 2015

Your spouse’s infidelity has provided you with something you didn’t expect: a chance to stop, take stock of your life, define what your needs are, discover who you are—and whether or not it’s who you want to be.

As a married person, life is usually too hectic, on a cycle of day-in, day-out, and you don’t think about your life and whether you or on track for what you want. An affair is a jolt to your world, forcing you to look at things with fresh eyes.

In this post, I’ll share with you the 3 steps you should take before you can take optimum advantage of this opportunity for self-discovery. Read on…

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The 3 Barriers to Forgiveness

March 16th, 2015

One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse.

The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing.

In this blog, we’ll look at three barriers to forgiveness, if you find yourself stuck. Read on…

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Survive the Affair: Sidestep the Paramour-Comparison Temptation

March 11th, 2015

Your spouse’s affair has probably devastated your self-esteem. Like many affair victims, you may be plagued with thoughts of the other woman.

It’s additional pain to beat yourself up by comparing yourself to the paramour.

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that are coming from inside you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some tips for avoiding the paramour-comparison temptation and rebuilding your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Help: Reintroduce This into your Marriage

March 9th, 2015

Prior to the affair, your marriage had probably entered a deep rut. The affair has exploded onto your marriage scene like a bomb, with debris everywhere. You need post-affair help to clean up this mess your spouse has made.

A lot of couples who are working to survive an affair feel that it’s all bad news from that point on: there will be tear, recriminations, blame, resentment, anger.

No one is going to suggest that those elements won’t be present in a post-affair marriage. At first, you have a lot of rock ground to work through. However, at some point—if you decide to rebuild your marriage—you will need to move forward as a couple.

In this post, I’ll offer some ideas to help spring you free from the marital-rut your marriage had fallen into prior to the affair. Read on…

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Why You Shouldn’t Wait for Marriage Help

March 4th, 2015

Are you waiting for you marriage to get better, but haven’t actually sought marriage help?

You may think that giving some thought to your marriage will make things better. After all, a relationship that is pushed into the corner may not stand a chance, but a relationship in which you acknowledge some work is needed has to be better off, right?

But if you wait too long, you may doom your marriage. In this blog, I’ll tell you about some recent marriage research about couples in crisis, and three steps for turning your marriage around—for the better. Read on…

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Go Ahead—Cheat!

March 2nd, 2015

If you really want to shake up your marriage and get it on the right track—it’s time to have an affair.

Gasp, sputter… what?

In this blog, I’ll explain what I mean, so don’t panic… In addition, I’ll give you 3 tips for rebuilding your marriage, from the ground up if necessary. Please keep reading…

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One Solution in 3 Steps for Rebuilding Your Marriage

February 25th, 2015

Marriages can often resemble battlefields: lines are drawn, you stick to your guns on every issue. You dig in on your side, your spouse digs in on the other side. Neither of you will give an inch—it’s as if your very lives are dependent on being “right.”

This makes for some kind of living arrangement, doesn’t it?

Intimacy falls by the wayside, and you no longer enjoy one another’s company. In this blog, we’ll look at how compromise can boost intimacy and improve your marriage in three steps. Please keep reading…

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Affair Images of His Cheating

February 23rd, 2015

He cheated, and you are the one who can’t seem to get the affair images out of your head.

Hardly fair, is it?

It can be easy to fall into a nasty cycle of affair images: you’re angry that your spouse did this to you, and you seem to be the one dealing with all of the pain.

In this blog, I’ll help you protect your heart from continued pain and bring those images to a gradual end point. Keep reading…

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