Emotional Infidelity: Are you at Risk?

June 29th, 2015

Who is vulnerable to emotional infidelity?

The answer may surprise you.

Emotional infidelity is tricky by its very nature: it occurs at a level where you may not even realize it’s happening. In this blog, we’ll explore how easily a casual relationship can slip into emotional infidelity—and how you and your spouse can protect from its pitfalls. Read on…

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Keep Spouse’s Attention on the Marriage, Not Affair Fantasies

June 24th, 2015

Whether or not you are dealing with a cheating spouse—or a spouse who is on the edge of cheating, your marriage may still have very big issues that need solving.

Looking outside of the marriage can seem like the “answer” to some spouses. After all, new relationships don’t have the messy problems that a marriage can build up over time. The only problem is… being married.

In this post, let’s look at your relationship and identify ways to remove the “grass is greener” mentality of looking outside of the marriage as a mechanism for avoiding the work involved to fix what’s broken. Read on…

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Flirting: Good or Bad for a Marriage?

June 22nd, 2015

What’s a little innocent flirting?

Many married people think that a little harmless flirting with people outside of the marriage can actually be good for the marriage.

However, a little ‘innocent’ flirting has a lot that recommends against it.

In this blog, I’ll explain why, and give you tips on infusing a little passion into your own relationship. Read on…

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Cheaters Justify their Behavior

June 17th, 2015

Cheaters tend to tell themselves a story about their behavior. They justify their actions, and make you feel as if you’re crazy.

For a lot of people, they simply aren’t sure where the lines of cheating are. They have gotten their ideas from movies, songs, second-hand stories… but most people don’t sit down and figure out what the true depth of cheating is.

Also, your spouse may have a small view of what makes cheating actual “cheating” because they don’t want to admit that their actions could be defined as such.

In this blog, I’ll give you the definition of cheating, so you and your spouse will not have any miscommunication about exactly where the lines are—and why their behavior is destroying your marriage. Please read more…

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Want to Save Your Marriage? Take the Lead.

June 15th, 2015

Your marriage is in crisis, either from an affair, neglect—or a relationship-deadly combination of both.

You may be waiting for your spouse to make a move: let him or her make amends, fix the problems in your marriage, turn things around.

Don’t hold your breath.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why, and give you 3 tips to save your marriage, before you slide into divorce court wondering “what happened?” Please keep reading…

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A Cheater’s Thought Process in Defining Cheating

June 10th, 2015

Are you arguing with your spouse about the definition of what cheating actually is?

It can feel like you’re in the Twilight Zone. Cheaters tend to have their own thoughts on what constitutes an affair, and even people who haven’t cheated may have a radically different definition than someone else’s.

Your spouse really might not know what defines cheating. Or, simply can’t admit to contemplating cheating, are in danger of cheating, or are actually engaged in the act of cheating or have cheated in the past.

In this blog, you will learn what infidelity is, so you aren’t left doubting your sanity about your reaction to your spouse’s behavior and why it feels hurtful to you.

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Is the Paramour Better than You?

June 8th, 2015

What could be more torturous for an affair victim than to think they somehow don’t measure up to the paramour?

No one wants to feel second best, or undesirable, especially not to the person you’ve given your hand in marriage to. Yet, many husbands and wives who’ve been cheated on wonder what’s wrong with them to make their spouse want to stray in the first place.

In this blog, we’ll examine some of the obsessive thoughts that can occur about the paramour—and 3 tips for how to focus on yourself and rebuild your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Marriage: Better than Before?

June 3rd, 2015

Your spouse’s cheating can almost destroy the foundation of your marriage.

Despite the devastation, many victims of an affair have a desire to save their marriage. The affair is like a bad dream, a tough obstacle to overcome. An affair victim may think, “I have invested many years with this person—sacrificing, negotiating and accommodating—why should I give all that effort away to someone else? I want things to go back to the way they once were.”

In this post, I’ll show you why going “back” may not be the best direction for you, and give you some steps to move your efforts forward to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Once A Cheater, Always…?

June 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage, but one question keeps playing in your head: “once a cheater, always a cheater?”

While many believe that a cheater can never change, we as humans have an enormous capacity to make positive changes. Does this mean your spouse definitively won’t cheat again?

In this blog, I’ll give you three indications of a right and narrow path on the part of your spouse that you can look for so to determine what your spouse may do in the future. Read on…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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