Cheating Spouses Needs Not Met: Valid Cheating Excuse?

October 7th, 2015

Finding out your spouse cheated, probably one of your first questions was, “Why?”

Cheaters may have a specific reason they give as a justification, but more than likely, they are not in touch with what prompted them to commit such a stupid act. Unfortunately, the victim of the affair can’t rest until the question is answered to some level of satisfaction.

When it comes to cheating, there is no “good” reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But cheaters tend to always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at two needs found within a marriage, and I’ll give two conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Trust Your Spouse Again Post-Affair

September 30th, 2015

Do you trust your spouse?

If you’re recovering from an affair, the answer is probably a resounding “no.”

But what if you could trust your spouse 25%, 50%–or even 75%, would that boost your belief in your potential for success in saving your marriage?

In this blog, we’re going to look at 3 forms of trust in a relationship, and I’ll ask you to rate how much trust you really have in your spouse. Read on…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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The Forgiveness Dilemma (Tips on Managing Stages)

August 31st, 2015

Forgiveness? If your spouse cheated on you, probably one of the last thoughts you have right now is whether or not you should forgive.

Doesn’t that imply that you should somehow forget the betrayal?

Forgiveness is in the eye of the beholder: when you behold your cheating spouse before you, what are you thinking?

In this blog, we’ll examine forgiveness, and some of the back-and-forth stages you may need to go through before you can reach a place to even consider the question. Please keep reading…

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Does Your Marriage Have The Code in Place?

August 12th, 2015

Do you want to save your marriage, but don’t know how to trust your spouse again?

You realize that if you don’t find a way to trust your spouse, it will mean the end of your marriage. You’re stuck: you don’t trust your spouse, and your spouse doesn’t know how to make you believe in them again, and you keep waiting to really know that your spouse is being honest with you.

That’s where your attempts to save your marriage may be struggling most: what you’re focusing on. Read on to learn the basic guidelines for rebuilding trust…

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Jealousy: Use it to Your Marriage’s Advantage

August 10th, 2015

Jealousy can serve a beneficial purpose, or it can eat you alive and drive away your spouse.

So, what’s the catch to making it beneficial rather than harmful?

In this blog, we’ll explore jealousy: when it’s good, when it’s bad—and when it’s downright destructive. Read on…

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What Does Forgiveness Mean for YOU?

July 15th, 2015

If your spouse cheated and your marriage is in crisis, your days are more than likely involved with working on saving your marriage.

But the wounds inflicted by the revelation of infidelity may remain deep, with built-up anger and resentment over the breach of trust. You don’t know how you’ll ever get to the point where you are able to move forward and just forgive.

In this blog, let’s examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what forgiveness means to you. It may help you become unstuck, if that’s what you are feeling now. Please keep reading…

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Faith in Cheater… Only When You Have This

July 13th, 2015

It’s the million dollar question: when should you trust a cheater?

Every cheating victim’s situation is different, but there is one truth that is universal that can be applied in all situations.

In this blog, we’ll look at that universal truth, so you will have a way to gauge when is the right time to trust your cheating spouse.

I’ll give you tips for how to get the cooperation you need from your cheating spouse. Read on…

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Cheaters Justify their Behavior

June 17th, 2015

Cheaters tend to tell themselves a story about their behavior. They justify their actions, and make you feel as if you’re crazy.

For a lot of people, they simply aren’t sure where the lines of cheating are. They have gotten their ideas from movies, songs, second-hand stories… but most people don’t sit down and figure out what the true depth of cheating is.

Also, your spouse may have a small view of what makes cheating actual “cheating” because they don’t want to admit that their actions could be defined as such.

In this blog, I’ll give you the definition of cheating, so you and your spouse will not have any miscommunication about exactly where the lines are—and why their behavior is destroying your marriage. Please read more…

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Want to Save Your Marriage? Take the Lead.

June 15th, 2015

Your marriage is in crisis, either from an affair, neglect—or a relationship-deadly combination of both.

You may be waiting for your spouse to make a move: let him or her make amends, fix the problems in your marriage, turn things around.

Don’t hold your breath.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why, and give you 3 tips to save your marriage, before you slide into divorce court wondering “what happened?” Please keep reading…

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