Jealousy: Undermining Marriage-Saving Efforts?

May 20th, 2015

A spouse’s affair can cause you to doubt your worth and flat-line your self-esteem. The betrayal inflicts deep wounds, causing seemingly unceasing psychological turmoil.

As you work to survive the affair, and maybe you’re even trying to save your marriage, you may now watch your cheating spouse’s every move, looking for any sign that he or she is giving attention to someone else.

While some jealousy may be good, those jealous feelings can also backfire and jeopardize your efforts to save your marriage.

In this blog, let’s look at jealousy, and I’ll give you 3 tips on how to wield it wisely. Please read on…

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Survive the Affair: Sidestep the Paramour-Comparison Temptation

March 11th, 2015

Your spouse’s affair has probably devastated your self-esteem. Like many affair victims, you may be plagued with thoughts of the other woman.

It’s additional pain to beat yourself up by comparing yourself to the paramour.

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that are coming from inside you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some tips for avoiding the paramour-comparison temptation and rebuilding your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Health Reasons behind Affair Forgiveness

January 28th, 2015

Infidelity and forgiveness: it’s a very thorny topic.

Just the thought of forgiving a cheating spouse is enough to make an affair victim’s heart race.

But speaking of hearts… forgiveness may offer some health benefits.

In this blog, we’ll look at the idea of forgiveness which is a huge hurdle for many. I will also review a proven alternative to forgiveness-one that has the power to help you reduce your emotional anguish, even if you’re not ready for “forgiving and forgetting.” Please keep reading…

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Cope with Affair Obsessing

January 26th, 2015

Upon learning of your spouse’s affair, you’ve suffered enormous, life-altering news. You can and will heal from the damage the affair revelation has caused, but it’s difficult to believe that’s possible right now when you are feeling so traumatized.

You may begin to fear you’re stuck forever with these obsessive affair thoughts.

You’ve been betrayed, and it can cause obsessing about your spouse’s affair so that you feel sick over it. In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 steps to make the obsessing stop so you can reclaim some peace of mind. Read on…

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Suspicious He Cheated?

February 15th, 2012

Are you suspicious that he cheated? Has he (or she) cheated before, and now you worry that you’re going to have to relive the nightmare again?

Suspicions can haunt you day and night, whether you have evidence for them or not. And if this is what you’re currently experiencing, you are dealing with one of the most complex and challenging parts of healing from an affair.

In this blog, I am going to teach you how to develop a “suspicion filter.” Keep reading…

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Unprotected Marriages are Affair-Susceptible

December 14th, 2011

Do you want to know one way affairs often happen?

It can happen through an innocent act that crosses an invisible boundary, such as a well-meaning hug, or time spent with someone outside of the marriage who is just a friend, but of the opposite sex.

How do you protect your marriage so it is not affair-susceptible—and still be able to talk to and spend time with people outside of your marriage? In this blog, I will offer you a 3-step process for protecting your marriage first. Keep reading…

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The Two Sides of Marriage Jealousy

October 28th, 2011

Have you ever watched your spouse flirting with someone else and felt your stomach tighten, your jaws clench, and your eyes narrow in furious rage?

You recognize that you’re experiencing that so called “green-eyed” monster – and may fear it’ll get the best of you. In fact, you may find yourself lashing out at your spouse, driving him or her away with your jealous outbursts.

In today’s blog, discover the two sides of jealousy, how one side can be good for a marriage – and how to harness that good side. Keep reading…

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Survive An Affair and Shattered Emotions

September 29th, 2011

Wish you could go permanently numb to escape the pain of shattered emotions?

You’re not alone. Many who want to survive affair trauma wish they didn’t have to feel so much pain in the process.

You need to understand the two of the top Emotional Roadblocks to Healing you’ll have to cope with in order to survive affair damage and move forward. Keep reading…

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Jealous of Spouse? Managing Your Internal Comfort Boundary

September 7th, 2011

Maybe you were at a party and your spouse was just a little too friendly with the females. Or your wife wears clothes that you feel are a little bit too revealing for those work meetings.

And maybe you’ve reacted. Badly. In the heat of the moment, your imagination running wild, you accused your spouse of being a cheater, or looking for someone to cheat with.

Jealousy, the so-called “green-eyed monster,” can be a destructive force in a marriage. Here’s what to do to ensure it doesn’t drive a further wedge between you and your spouse and undo the very foundation of your marriage. Keep reading for four steps to take…

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How to Deal with Infidelity and the Other Woman

August 3rd, 2011

A spouse’s affair can make you lose your identity. It can be such a shock to the system, you really don’t know what’s what anymore: who are you? Who is your spouse? Who is this paramour of your spouse?

Many affair victims become consumed with curiosity about their spouse’s lover. It can become an obsession, and if you’re the victim, you may find yourself feeling competitive against this person.

Let’s look at some warning signs that you’re competing against the paramour – and how it may be pushing your spouse away from rather than toward you.

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