Somewhere along its path, your marriage hit the skids, and may have been additionally rocked by an affair. If your marriage is in crisis, you know how your once-happy “union” can begin to feel like unpaid, overtime work.
There isn’t a way to not do the work when it comes to saving your marriage. But take heart: it doesn’t have to be all drudgery.
In this post, I’ll help you evaluate whether you’re taking advantage of one tactic for saving—and building—your marriage. Also, a plan to make sure you incorporate one crucial piece.
Critical Elements Involved in Marriage Salvage
When couples talk of saving their marriage, both spouses may have ideas as to what it will mean:
- Tense discussions about marriage problems
- Uncomfortable silences
- Accusations and recriminations
- Exhausting efforts to resolve conflicts
- Negative thoughts, emotions and images
- Developing new communication skills
No one kids themselves that saving a marriage in crisis is going to be easy. Who wouldn’t have some sense of dread, though, when faced with an unappetizing menu such at that to look forward to?
Don’t sell yourself—or your marriage—short. Yes, the difficult work of reconciliation and repairing the damage caused by an affair must go on. Just remember another critical element that goes into building your marriage: Fun.
The Survival of Your Relationship Demands It
You may be thinking: Fun? Did I just read that right?
Fun has probably become a distant memory in light of recent events in your marriage. Trying to save a sinking ship doesn’t seem to go with making time to strike up the band.
But in order to move forward as a couple, you and your spouse need to rebuild your bond. By focusing on building good memories once again, the bad memories and pain may begin to lose their power and hold over your relationship.
What you need is to reignite the spark that once brought you and your spouse together. In order for this to occur, you need to work together to prepare fertile ground for this to take place.
And where have couples always created and expanded their mutual spark? By indulging in dates with one another—time set aside to just “be” as a couple, relax and have a good time. Here are some steps to help you prepare to reignite:
Step 1: Create a Date List
For weeks, months—and maybe longer—you and your spouse have been cataloguing and reviewing the hurts and slights in your relationship. And if there’s been an affair, the misery wrought is never far from your consciousness.
Take a step in a positive idea: sit down with your spouse and brainstorm date ideas. Or, agree that you will each brainstorm 5 ideas, and then combine the lists.
Step 2: Choose and Plan a Date Idea
From the list you and your spouse have created, select one date idea—and calendar it immediately, in ink. In order to rebuild your marriage, you need actions that will propel the relationship forward.
This doesn’t mean all of the hurt and anger disappears. What it shows is a commitment on the part of both spouses to take the necessary steps to build positive memories.
Step 3: Put Aside Conflict for the Date
Your “first date” in your quest to save and build your marriage may be a tense time. It won’t be the jitters you had on the original first date you and your spouse had when you first got together. Below the surface of this date may be jitters about how to behave, what to say, what to discuss.
Agree that for this date, you will both commit to relax, and not bring up any conflicts or points of contention during this time you’ve set aside. You will both need to be mindful of your hot-button issues—and steer clear.
I would like to hear from you about what you have done for fun in building and saving your marriage …
Have you developed date plans together, and then followed through on actually going on the dates?
How did you feel on your “first” date?
Did you and your spouse set ground rules in what you would discuss/not discuss on the date?
Please share your thoughts and experiences on this topic by leaving a comment below.
Wishing you hope and healing for your marriage,
Stephanie Anderson
Editor-in-Chief
Marriage Sherpa
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Nice site. I learned quite a bit. I hope to check back on your upcoming updates. Keep up the great work.
Mrs S
Well I certainly can feel your pain …It is appalling what women are doing and have been led to think is ‘freedom ‘ in this day and time
No wife can compete with the woman who is free to be fun .
The single woman who is young, energetic, has been educated with the self esteem cirriculum that has flooded the school system in the past thirty years…the urging of ‘authorities’ for them to ‘exercise ‘ there sexuality and “explore’ their options…and then there is the wonderful ‘birth control’ that has further freed people to make ‘chioces’ for their OWN pleasure and disregard the various down side,. so NOW we have the chaos…the broken marriages …the children with several kinds of ‘families’ offered that offer NOTHING of what GOD intended for them
I don’t have to tell you what is the outcome of disregarding the Lord …we have the records from Genesis to Revelation of the disasters that come when human beings serve THEMSELVES ..their fleshly appetites at the expense of learning what LIFE is really supposed to be about.
At SOME point people who do such things wake up and wonder what next …and the perversions escalate …they turn to ‘extra’ for thrills and it often lead to some kind of addictive substance or habitual activity
HELLO! there is NOTHING like the virtues of the Lord explored and experienced by knowledge and obedience …or if it a more attractive word….application of the words/commands that GOD put there for our protection and blessing
The lie of the world is that GOD is outddated…or too restrictive.
The statistics still support that married faithful people are healthier, less stressed , have a better sex life and a better more fulfilled life in general
YOU know as you have stated that your husband downgraded to someone who has NO values and eventually THAT will be something that wears thin …his OWN guilt will also bring about stresses within his own body and their relationship …it is BOUND to bring nothing that they THINK it will ..and in the end ..it WILL end ,..and they will either separate …or go into a lengthy endurance …because they may not want to admit they have made a grievous error,
Sometimes it is not sex,..or even lust that keep those kinds of relationships together but shame , pride…and some kind of fear.
So if it is any consolation ..as we work our marriage out after the fact…the same truths have to be faced by the one who was not faithful
They have little to stand on …especially if you have been faithful to the LORD in your walk as you have been faithful to your spouse.
If we continue to walk in those things because we have loved the LORD then the life we lived may not be perfect ..but it will be blamelss in the terms of anyone who does love the LORD would be very concerned about trying to make their life exemplify Him ..not to bring shame to Him
Not being self righteous…but trying to carry out the ways we have to be in various offenses …that the Lord would have us be
Jesus was shamed…betrayed …and ultimately left alone …HE KNOWS our pain ..and it may be hard to take it …but in many ways …we have been given an opportunity to share in HIS experience…and we know HE is very invested in our growth and sustaining life …in this world as we go through and that eternity which if we are IN HIM has already begun to be our home
I pray that you will find strength in knowing that many are having to deal with this huge scourge …it is like a flood …
What are we to do ? We are told to CONTINUE in HIS WORD …and to know that HE is always working IN those who are IN HIM for His will to be done …and HE is able to keep those who are HIS …down to the last of the flock….leaving the ninety and nine!
Hugs
Question:
If my husband, as this article suggests, is misguided, because he went looking outside our 38yr marriage for any % he thought was missing…when does he get back on track?
How do I know if he ever will or want to?
I’m wondering, is there ANYONE out there with a successful recovery experience? Most of the blogs are all of us in the same boat. We might have a twinkle of hope but that seems to fade with each new correspondent. IF there were more articles &/or /blogs with positive responses ( a year, 3 yrs., 5yrs. with theropy?), I think that might comfort some of us.
I’ve been in this nightmare for 4 1/2 yrs & just want it over. I’ve lost my patience, waiting for my cheating husband to “wake-up”.
Let him do the hurting, once he’s lost me for good & is stuck with his girlfriend who is still married. They are a recipe for disaster!
LOVE YOU MRS. S!
The desire to do the things that are best indeed!
Those who do not know GOD according to scripture do not KNOW WHAT LOVE IS for GOD IS LOVE
The general idea of ‘love’ for those OF the world is that of romantic love, erotic love, brotherly love , and familial love …but GOD”S LOVE is DIFFERENT and is taught through a knowledge of HIM through the Word …it is revealed in and to those who love God enought to learn about what it is by GOD”S definition
Indeed it is very different from what most people think
Looking at the CROSS we see what LOVE requires of us
Death to SELF
Marriage is a lifetime of self denial and in truth it is to take up the cross and follow the LORD who is LORD of the marriage covenant .
This is nearly unknown in todays sensual and fun loving world
We actually can ENJOY life and love MORE through this truth but those who do not know the LORD do not know spiritual things …do not understand them and it is foolishness unto them as the scriptures put it /
One teacher pointed out that if beauty , brains and bucks were the only coin of the realm then HOLLYWOOD would be the best pattern to follow in relationships …obviously that is not the case if their track record is anything to observe!
But many follow like lemmings after the various media darlings …until those making money from them find a new one and then that old one is dropped.
It is a farce but people younger and younger buy the lie as many generations of parents have not known what the purpose of life was in the aspect of training up their children to know what GOD’s word says about life and all that is important for us to know
The various means that people ‘learn ‘ today is a mixture of fantasy and fables.
what can one expect when one marries someone who is not rooted and grounded in truth and just thinks that SAND is a great foundation for their choices.
UGH ..
SO sorry for your trial ..but GOD has still a work IN you so do not dispair …I share this sorrow and it is often tempting to give in and give up but we MUST stay faithful and continue and allow GOD to work …in us ..and perhaps to reach our spouses …somehow …
I do not pretend to know HOW but many times I found that the less I was able to figure out the solution and just kept on staying in the WORD and applying what I DID know then the other parts worked out
That way GOD got more of the glory too .
Hard to wait and be patient I know …but sometimes the more unlikely the outcome the more awesome the testimony!
Hugs
No good thing will God withhold from those who walk uprightly!
Hang on!
I believe another ingredient to save a marriage is DESIRE!
Wanting to live up to the commitment, in the absence of FUN. Life isn’t an everyday party. Once in a while, we are called upon to be hard working, responsible, self sacrificing adults.
I had that desire & was willing to do the work, hard as it might have been, because I thought it was best for our family of 38yrs & I wanted to be obedient to GOD.
My husband did not want to do the work. Now, he parades around with the OW(also married but seperated so that makes their adultery – okay), flaunting his affair, in hopes that I will see the wisdom in his filing for divorce.
Life with him was not easy & I’ve NEVER denied him anything outside our marriage vows. I tell myself: IF I truly loved him, I’d let him go, wish him well, & be glad he has found happiness. I think his joy is shallow & question the level of his happiness, because it’s come at a terrific cost and I feel I’ve paid the price.
My marriage included GOD, my husband’s did not. There, too, lies the MOST IMPORTANT ingredient!!!
tortured, I think you made the right move. Good for you. And if he does contact her and doesnt tell you, you need to tell him to go. Even if its just temparary. That way he knows its for real and he cant walk all over you. I do believe my wife hasnt contacted the O.P. in my case. And I almost guareentee he hasnt contacted her. Once he moved, he never called her, it was her calling him. I think his plan was a one time thing and move away and his wife wouldnt know. I think my wife understands that now. You need to be firm with your husband, I love my wife too. And I told her if I ever caught her or suspected her of doing this again. Its over. I cant go through this twice, and I wont. I feel I deserve better. and I think you do too.
Brad, my husbands affair sounds almost identical to your wifes. I’ve been reading these blogs for months now & haven’t gotten the courage to tell my story. Until now, your story hit close to my heart. I busted my husband in May which he told her at that time that it was over. We immediately started to work on our marriage & it’s been going really good. We’re happier & more in love with each other than ever!! But it didn’t end completely! See they share a child from before we were married. So they, in a way, have to stay in contact, which was then supposed to only be about their daughter (when needed). Well they still talked way to regularly about god-knows-what. They tried to hide it from me, so that I wouldn’t get upset…yeah right! Finally just the last 2 months he’s decided to try to be better to me. So he deleted her # from his phone so that he wasn’t tempted to contact her. But, of course, she can’t leave him alone so keeps calling & texting him. So, good for him, he decided to change his phone # (she has mine for when she does need something for their daughter). Things were running smoother, I was feeling like I might actually be able to start healing. But within a couple weeks he then emailed her. I’m not proud to admit it, but yes I’ve been spying on him since April, when I started having suspicions. So I saw his email, the day he sent it, & finally broke down & gave him an altimatum. I just told him that I’m not going to keep feeling better then let him beat me down again by feeling like I have to compete for his attention with her. He either gets her out of his mind & out of his life completely or I’m done. I love this man to death! We’ve been married for 13 years & been through so much together. I don’t want to just give up, that’s why I’ve put up with so much this year for him. But I’m tired of worrying & feeling like I’m being taken advantage of. He apoligized & (again) promised to be better & done with her. We’ll see what happens over the next couple weeks or even couple months. He knows I’m done if he’s not going to be. I’m not going to stop worrying about him & her, and quit spying on him until sufficient time has passed of him leaving her alone though.
Trying to have fun ….but he seems to have ‘used up” the kinds of things he has enjoyed doing ….with others…
With his adulterous partner ..he was happy to do ‘nothing’ …because they could not be out and seen ..
He simply did not enjoy being with me …or even with our kids…he ‘spent ‘ himself with others…first at work ..then his friends..his clients…his family
In other words he never changed his ‘identity ‘ from a single man to being married….refused to wear his wedding band when he had a job that endangered his finger …but after that job ..he could have but refused …because he ‘never did like to wear jewelry ‘ …
All in all ..if a man does not have a ‘change of identity ‘ to be a servant of the Lord in truth …doesn’t care about pleasing GOD ..he WILL please his own flesh …bottom line
Those who are OF the flesh and walk IN it …will not care who they hurt to get what they want to do …
That is straight from the Lord’s WORDS ..
He that knows not GOD knows not love
Love keeps the commandments.
Love works no ill to his neighbor …let alone his wife ..or someone elses wife
Even a single woman is ‘someone elses wife ‘ if not his own
ONE MAN …ONE WIFE …
that is enough to keep any man busy maturing …but todays men …for the most part feel entitled to stay immature for life..and too many young women are stupid enough to enable them and steal from the man’s wife and his children to feed their own egos
God is not mocked nor amused and he WILL be just.
I have a different situation than some. My wifes affair ended about 6 or 7 months ago. She had sex with him once before he moved accross the country. But continued with an emotional one for several months even after I found out. She would call from her work phone so I couldnt find out. It stopped in May and we have been working on our marriage. Some days are better than others. We have fun when we go out, not a problem. We spend time together at home, mostly watching a show we enjoy. My problem is when the show is something she doesnt enjoy, she doesnt stay there long. I have given up watching ballgames or movies I would really like, to watch a show she will watch, just to spend time together. And never complain about the show, just watch and enjoy my wife sitting next to me. But if there isnt anything on , and I turn on a ballgame, or movie she isnt interested in, after a little time, she is up either on the computer, or in the kitchen doing some very unimportant task. Its obvious she was bored and left because of it. I have been very bored watching reality show contest or whatever, but I am trying to spend time with her. It doesnt seem to be the other way around. She says she was going to check something real quick then come back to watch with me. She has said this before while watching a movie that I chose to watch. We both love the outdoors, but now the weather is bad, and nothing to do there. The shopping season is over, so cant do that either. I even went shopping on Black Friday, which I hate, stood in one line over an hour, no complaints. We joked and had fun. but it seems if it is something she doesnt enjoy, she loses intrest real quick and will go over to play on the computer. It turned into a discussion over her affair last night. Which turns into me feeling guilty for making her feel bad, and long times of silence. I dont know how to discuss it without it getting that way. Its like I am the bad guy. Now where do I turn, which direction do I go. Its obvious we both want this marriage and care for each other, but it is very tense sometimes, and we dont move forward when we discuss her affair. Any ideas??
I’ve read these comments. I feel for you after 12 years or less. I’ve been married for 31 and my husband found a 30 year old woman, also married? Our kids are older than she is!
Look, we’ve had problems, no doubt. His continuous affairs over the years took away my life and our happiness! I still love him, however, what I’m about to say to you is this, “Stop, work it out, be faithful, be truthful, be MARRIED”.
That’s what God intended when You Said “I Do”.
I realize that some relationship’s wouldn’t survive a single storm, but I can tell you that you do not want to walk in my shoes and go into a Courtroom knowing what will be said. Much less what will be lost!
If there is Hope, and you must always believe there is, there is a greater chance of achieving the goal!
Give one another a reason to TRUST!
troubled
well my husband and i have been together for over 12 yrs and i tell ya i have forgiven him for everyone of his indescrestiions yes his were more then once and to find out the he was having an emotional affair with my best friend was it , yes i understand i went outside of the box myself but i did it as revenge and he left me after he found out and with in 3 days he was in a relationship with her while her signifiacante other was locked up and he has refused for her other to know about it and continues to have a friendship and hang out with this women and i thought i would be the bigger person and put all of my morals aside and friend her again to find out that she still wants him and has asked him to go back to her so he left me again when i asked him if something was going on that i should know about !!! so now he has been sleeping in my bed for 6 months now but refuses to say we are working it out he is saying we are friends with benifits but yet we do everything still as a family but yet he treats me like crap and is always mad at me i can never do anything right i walk on eggshells as if i shouldnt eggist except for when he wants sex or make love as u would say but lately i have to say sex cause it isnt the same and all i can say is the hurt is out weighting the pain so i hope this program works cause i know what we used to have it was full of love and everything no matter what but now its and it seems so empty of a shell and im beginning to be lost as a human being so if there have been any success stories plz share them with me plz i need the encouragement to possibly give me hope in life
I have put in my two cents of my concern of improper contact with a divorced woman that my husband works with, She is getting in the way of my marriage with my husband. He treats me with a curt attitude after seeing or speaking with her. He won’t fess up to it. I am in a situation that I was a cheat. Now I feel I can’t demand anything. I don’t want to feel punished any more. I’m worried about my personality and it’s vengeful side. I’m doing my best to ride out what I once perceived as a reason to do a I’ll get even with you move. I am praying to heal and heal my marriage, this suffering is a lonely way to go. Thank GOD I have GOD to keep me on the right track.
Pray for me as I pray for everyone to heal, be healthy and happy
I discovered 7 months ago that my husband of nearly 12 years had been having an affair with a married “friend” of the family for nearly a year. Not only had I been clueless enough to let them hang out rehearsing for singing/piano gigs but, had considered her somewhat of a friend as well. All the while she and my husband were lambasting me and having sex to boot. She even braided my hair for me. As I discovered after the fact, she had cut about 6 inches off and replaced it with extensions. Talk about feeling like a complete fool. We are working at our relationship and are going to therapy but, the pain and anger often get in the way of my having fun. I really feel my main motivation for trying to save this marriage is for the sake of our two young children, 8 years and 5 years. I know that isn’t the only reason but it;s the biggest one. I don’t know how to shelve my emotions to learn to really enjoy my husband again without putting on a good face. I am willing to try and reading this type of stuff is actually very helpful.
Couldn’t Believe it!
My husband of 12 years left me and claimed it was because of my opera career. I stopped my career to show him that he mattered more. he was fine with that. Months later I discovered he had been having an affair with a married colleague half my age, at least 1.5 years. He has not stopped, just hiding it deeper. 6 months ago he claimed she had gone back to her husband and that he wanted us to try again. It didn’t look or feel like trying. No wonder, at the same time (I just discovered), he was doing paternity tests. She is now supposed to be pregnant with her husband’s baby.
They work as a two-person team, in a highly specialised field. He claims he cannot get another job like this. Fair enough. But he keeps seeing her 40 hours a week, plus texts, emails, phone calls. He has not made any effort for us to become close. No intimacy, not even hugs. He has always been a horrible bully. I was a doormat – that’s what I thought a good wife should be. He helped me a lot at the start of my career and I was grateful. He has never been accountable for anything. His mother, twice-daily calls, has taught him that I am worthless, a mistake, a liability. this is how he treated me.
I did all that for love. I have been in love with him for 16 years. I thought he loved me too.
In the last month I have finally woken up. I realised my worth. I regained my dignity. I stopped living through him.
His affair is clearly going on. Now Christmas is coming and he is going to cook the dinner, then we’ll see his parents. I don’t want to really end my marriage. The quality of men out there is very low. I tested many before I married him. But I will have to finally say stop to this. I lost so much weight, got grey hair. It would prefer to think that we started to rebuild, but is it just that he has learned to lie better?
How can you have a ‘fun time’ when all the years we were married we never had a good time? She NEVER wanted to do any thing with me and never acted as a wife to me. Our first year was a disaster that I tried to make better, but was not able to get her to see what she was doing. I don’t even feel like trying anymore. After she had her two affairs I was treated even worse than before. Yes, she was emotionally abused by her mother when she was younger but I was never given this info until after we had been married 17 years and only because I had to ‘dig’ for info. She never talked with me about our ‘marriage’. Only absolutely necessary communication. She starved me emotionally the entire time we have been together; 38 years. Why I stayed I can not even begin to know.
We are doing very well following the affairs. We have recommitted and are having fun and going forward we are having a blast and never looking back.We love each other and are learning from our mistakes and moving forward and even have started an exciting new Home based business. Please look at GBG!! Health and Wealth are in our sight! http://www.shopgbg.com/MarkTreasure. Life is to short to dwell on past mistakes. Make a commitment today to make changes in your own life and your relationship to be happy and enjoy life!! Only you can change you!! Get started today!!!
When I first started receiving your emails, I did not want to hear all those “positive tools.” I wanted to resent and think that it was all his fault. I had been treated unfair. But once I started looking inside myself and my true intentions, and my ” being nice motivations;” I realized I was a fearful clingy person that expected my husband to be my all and make me happy. (That is a mouthful for me)! NOW, I realize the work it takes, my part, and with some “creative communication skills,” it can be fun and empowering! We have learned problem solving techniques to address issues instead accusing each other, xyz statements which aloud me to express how I feel, I have learn to check my assumptions about what is being said instead of maybe thinking negative thoughts they may not be true
), and when I start to sulk and play victim, I ask myself: “Is there a better way to handle this?” Good luck to all on your journey, its progress not perfection!
We’ve been married for 12 years. My wife has had two affairs in that time, one was for 10 years and only got terminated by the second affair not approving of him. A friend who asked that his contacts remain secret… and another friend wanting to show that she was wrong to have dumped him.
Wish I’d planned more date nights, if only because that would have reduced the time available for the other guys to try seduce my wife.
No one deserves to be raped – but I’m not surprised that she was. She tried to keep things non sexual, but “just texts and emails” will always progress given time. Some guys just won’t wait for consent.
Try to get inside the head of your spouse, its easy to understand how they can get seduced by circumstances and like a frog in a pan of water on a stove, end up in hot water without realising it.
It’s easier to forgive stupidity than wanton cruelty. Did they just make stupid mistakes? Did you?
It’s hard to go out and “have fun” when one of you has lost the motivation to make it work.
I had a think and realised I have been in an affair for many years… with *myself*. Not sure how to explain that – it’s kinda like i’m happy with my own company and would rather do what I want to do, you know? Sort of selfish I suppose.
That said, our relationship crumbled over the years because of the most important requirement gone missing… Trust.
Trust isn’t just about honesty and loyalty. Trust is also about not hurting your partner in other ways. For example, you should be able to trust your partner not to tear you to shreds if you screw up the littler things.
It’s ok to get angry over those screw ups, but when they become the reasons for separation talk, then trust has been betrayed. We don’t tell our kids we’re getting rid of them because they didn’t clean their room for the fifth weekend in a row.
When you give your partner the impression they are expendable, then you’ll lose their trust. They will be wary of everything they do, be walking on eggshells and be reluctant to fully commit for fear of being hurt and having the trust they placed in their partner to accept their failings, broken.
This is all well and good but the most important thing is honesty in a relationship. It is the bedrock all healthy relationships must be placed upon.
We have been together 15 years. I discovered her betrayal last May, I now must review EVERYTHING that occurred over the length of our relationship and try to decide what was truth and what was lies!! Of course it is impossible.
Like many of you the betrayer/liar attempts to justify their evil by blaming the innocent. Do not believe these lies either!
My wife recycled many of the tired old lies liars have used since time began, the same ones I’ve read on these blogs.
So if my long hours away from her was the real problem why didn’t SHE get a job and help out with the bills!?!
If communication was the problem why didn’t she open her big mouth!?!
Were the “I love yous” ever true? If so when were they true and when were they pretty little lies to cover the deceit?
I must rely on God and trust Him to let me know what I need to know about her/us. God knows I will never get the full truth from her.
These seem a little hard to do when he is still justifying his actions. When is the point when you say “please sign the papers already”? When is enough enough? He doesn’t understand my point of view or exactly what he did wrong. He didn’t “cheat”…he was just texting and emailing…that is not “cheating”, at least not to him. He swears that I am his world but how can that be true if he doesn’t understand where we went wrong?
This has been helpful, I realize that I wasn’t taking or showing interest in him. He’s open up more and I’m learning to share myself as well. I wish I knew all of the helpful tips you’ve been offering perhaps things would have been different. Thanks
my husband and I are also trying to rebuild our relationship, It is awkward and at times very difficult to say the least. I told him that we needed time away together with out work, kids our house responsibilities. He is trying to be sincere but feel that it may be an act to fall back into his old habits of little communication. Our children are holding their breath to see if things change with him. They are very hurt by his betrayal to me (adult kids). Keep up the therapy…
My husband and I have been inseparable since we got back together. The things I refused to do with him because I didnt “like” them, I now look forward to. We have also taken several road trips and are slowly but surely rebuilding our marriage after his affair.
Now I wonder why I didnt spend time with him like this all along.
At first it was uncomfortable but keep doing it. You will have fun!
Thank you for these articles. I found out that my spouse of 12 years was having a year-long affair right under my nose (sad smile).
These are very helpful.