Overcome the Pain of Affair Memories

July 6th, 2016

If you are an affair victim, you may feel as if you’ve barely survived one of the worst times of your life.

But you have survived. The worst is over, that initial blow, right?

Unfortunately, you may still be living through the worst… being plagued by affair memories can destroy your peace of mind and make it harder to achieve any progress on the road to healing.

How do you break free from this seemingly endless cycle of emotional despondency?

In this blog, we’ll look at the emotionally-laden memories that may be causing you pain, and I’ll give you 3 things you can do to overcome those painful memories so you can begin healing. Please read more…

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Why Cheaters Cheat (1 Common, Controversial Reason)

December 21st, 2015

For victims of an affair, one of the top-ranked questions for cheaters is, “Why?”

There are other questions tacked on to that simple question, such as “How could you do this to me?” and “How could you throw away X years of our relationship?”

But the main thing victims want is some sort of explanation that makes sense. Not only that—they want an internal light bulb to go off, one that gives them perfect understanding while releasing the all-but-unbearable pain and disappointment: “Aha, now I understand! I am satisfied with the reason and feel at peace now.”

There is one universal reason, which is somewhat controversial to say, as to why cheaters cheat. It may or may not be a satisfying reason, but it strikes to the core of how a cheater arrived at their ill-fated decision. Read on to find out…

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Are You Sure You Want a Divorce?

September 28th, 2015

If you recently found out your spouse cheated, you may feel that’s it: you want a divorce.

Whether a divorce is right for you is something only you can answer.

In this blog, we’ll look at why the decision shouldn’t be made in the early days of the post-affair revelation, and 3 steps for making your choice. Read on…

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What’s the #1 Way to Stop Obsessive Affair Images? Find Out…

September 23rd, 2015

What images are you constantly replaying? Do you see the same images over and over?

Obsessive, post-affair images are a torment to the victim of an affair. You experience a continuous show of images that include your spouse and the paramour. These images play themselves to the point you feel like you’re going to lose your mind.

These images can become obsessive, gripping your mind until you can’t seem to release their hold over you. In this blog, I’ll tell you the #1 way to overcome these obsessive images. Read on…

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How Should You Handle Affair Details?

April 8th, 2015

After your spouse’s affair struck a mortal blow to the very heart of your marriage, you know you need a tremendous amount of “life support” to save your marriage.

Your marriage has no chance of surviving the infidelity until you satisfactorily resolve how you will handle the details of the affair.

You and your spouse, with committed effort, can survive an affair. But you need to decide how to discuss these painful details—or even if you should, and how to handle them if you do.

In this post, I’ll provide you with 3 steps that will help you make this far-reaching decision. Keep reading…

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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Surviving an Affair: How to Handle Thoughts about the Affair

August 31st, 2011

Your spouse created a tangled web of deceit, pain and suffering with which you’ve lived every minute after learning of the affair.

Once you were broadsided with the awful affair revelation, you may have been so thrown off, you began to demand all the details – and got them.

Now what? Your thoughts are overrun with those details, haunting you day after day, night after night. Here are 3 methods for regaining control of your mind, banishing those affair thoughts and healing. Keep reading…

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The #1 Way to Overcome Obsessive, Post-Affair Images

March 7th, 2011

What’s playing in your mind today? Is it the same thing that played there yesterday? And do you really look forward to seeing it again tomorrow?

I’m talking about obsessive, post-affair images. If you are the victim of an affair, it’s highly likely that you’re experiencing a non-stop show of images that include your spouse and your spouse’s paramour. These images play themselves repeatedly, until you feel like you’re going to lose your mind.

These images become obsessive in nature, because they’ve gripped you and you can’t seem to release their hold over you. In this blog, we’ll look at the #1 way to overcome these obsessive images—and the three steps to help you accomplish it.

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Marriage Help: Deciding How to Handle Affair Details

September 21st, 2010

After your spouse’s affair struck a violent blow to the very heart of your marriage, you know you need serious marriage help … immediately. You’re haunted by negative thoughts and images—sometimes before you even know any specific details.

Your marriage has no chance of surviving the infidelity until a very important issue is satisfactorily resolved: how to handle the details of the affair.

You and your spouse, with committed effort, can survive an affair. But your joint efforts may stall if you don’t decide whether you are going to discuss these painful details, and how to handle them if you do. Contrary to common assumptions, for some the best course may be to not discuss specific intimate details of the affair—you may come out stronger for not knowing them. For others, it may be essential to discuss the details before you can move forward.

In this post, I’ll provide you with 3 steps that will help you make this significant decision. Keep reading…

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Confiding in Family Can Doom Marriage Reconciliation

July 20th, 2010

If you’ve discovered your spouse has been involved in an affair, you can probably relate to the desire to confess their sins and wrong-doing to the people you feel are in your corner. But think twice before confiding the lurid details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family.

Pouring out your hurt, anger and disappointment to family and friends may be your first reaction, but in doing so, you could possibly doom any chance for reconciliation with your spouse. In this blog, we’ll explore whether confiding the affair to family and friends could kill your efforts to repair your relationship with your husband or wife—before you’ve even had a chance to work through the emotions you’re feeling and understand what it is you want.

You’re overwhelmed with emotions and want to lash out. You may find yourself bouncing between two extremes: the desire to hole up somewhere and privately nurse your wounds, yet also needing the embrace of the people you trust to love you and want what’s best for you, who will be there in your time of greatest need.

So what could possibly be wrong with reaching out to the other people in your life?

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