Overcome the Pain of Affair Memories

July 6th, 2016

If you are an affair victim, you may feel as if you’ve barely survived one of the worst times of your life.

But you have survived. The worst is over, that initial blow, right?

Unfortunately, you may still be living through the worst… being plagued by affair memories can destroy your peace of mind and make it harder to achieve any progress on the road to healing.

How do you break free from this seemingly endless cycle of emotional despondency?

In this blog, we’ll look at the emotionally-laden memories that may be causing you pain, and I’ll give you 3 things you can do to overcome those painful memories so you can begin healing. Please read more…

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Can Infidelity Be a Good Thing?

April 2nd, 2012

There are some affair victims who look back on their spouse’s infidelity as a very odd blessing in disguise.


For the victim of an affair, the emotional distress is overwhelming, and I am not about to suggest you think like that today. And no doubt, this will never be a period of time in which you will look back fondly.

In this blog, I will give you 3 tips for making this time of infidelity the best growth experience possible, beyond the pain that you are experiencing. Read on…

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Communicate About Affair Feelings

March 12th, 2012

So you and your spouse can’t seem to talk about the affair without a major emotional blow-up happening each time.

That’s perfectly understandable. At the same time, you know you’re stuck in a relationship limbo until you can communicate your feelings about the affair. Once you feel you’ve gotten your feelings across and release some of the pain, maybe you can move forward and start to rebuild your marriage.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 tips for communicating about the affair so you can find some pain relief. Please keep reading….

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How to Cope with Painful Memories of the Affair

May 4th, 2010

“We’ve been working on rebuilding our marriage for several months now,” said Tina. “But I’m having a hard time coping with the memories from that whole dark episode in our marriage. It’s been almost ten months since I found out about the affair.

The period surrounding that time was one of the worst of my life, from a year before Dan’s fling when we weren’t getting along, to the days and early months after I found out. It continues to haunt me, in the background of every effort we’re making to save our marriage. I just want to get rid of these memories. Isn’t there some way to hit the ‘delete’ button so I can be free of them, once and for all?”

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