Did You Get a GOOD Apology? (4 Clues…)

July 20th, 2016

Your partner may have hurt your feelings by saying something unkind. Or worse, maybe your partner betrayed you by having an affair.

And maybe you received an apology of sorts, but you don’t feel as if your partner really got what they did to you. Maybe you doubt their sincerity.

Maybe you question your ability to accept an apology, and you question yourself: “Am I being too picky?”

In this blog, we’ll look at what makes an apology a good one, and I’ll give you 4 clues to look for to help you recognize a good apology when you get it. Read on…

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Affair Images: 2 Tips to Escape the Pain

May 18th, 2016

If you’re the victim of an affair, it’s pretty common to carry around affair-related images in your mind.

Scenarios will pop up and drive you to what can feel like the brink of insanity. It’s exhausting, and most affair victims want to know… how can I escape this excruciating pain?

It’s a valid question, and unfortunately, the answer isn’t snapping your fingers and instantly erasing these images.

That doesn’t mean that they can’t be erased, though. In this blog, we’ll look at the pain of affair images and what it’s like for the victim, and then I’ll give you 2 tips to start the erasure process. Please keep reading…

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One Foot in the Relationship

May 16th, 2016

There’s one heartbreaking additional burden that some victims of affairs are forced to deal with, and that’s when the cheater keeps just one foot in the marriage, and the other is in the extramarital relationship.

What should you do when confronted with this horrible situation, where your partner’s indecisiveness is tearing you apart?

In this blog, we’ll look at what to do with a partner who thinks one foot in the relationship is fun living for the victim… and what the victim’s options are. Please keep reading…

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Why Cheaters Cheat (1 Common, Controversial Reason)

December 21st, 2015

For victims of an affair, one of the top-ranked questions for cheaters is, “Why?”

There are other questions tacked on to that simple question, such as “How could you do this to me?” and “How could you throw away X years of our relationship?”

But the main thing victims want is some sort of explanation that makes sense. Not only that—they want an internal light bulb to go off, one that gives them perfect understanding while releasing the all-but-unbearable pain and disappointment: “Aha, now I understand! I am satisfied with the reason and feel at peace now.”

There is one universal reason, which is somewhat controversial to say, as to why cheaters cheat. It may or may not be a satisfying reason, but it strikes to the core of how a cheater arrived at their ill-fated decision. Read on to find out…

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Post-Affair Minefields (Avoid This at All Costs)

November 9th, 2015

If you are working to salvage your relationship after your partner’s affair, there are certain things to avoid doing that can throw off your efforts.

When a partner cheats, it takes a lot more to save the relationship than just deciding to patch things up and move forward.

The victim of the affair has a lot to cope with, and there is one potential post-affair minefield that should be avoided at all costs. Today, let’s look at what that is, and why it is so damaging to let into your newly-recreated relationship. Please keep reading…

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Cheating Spouses Needs Not Met: Valid Cheating Excuse?

October 7th, 2015

Finding out your spouse cheated, probably one of your first questions was, “Why?”

Cheaters may have a specific reason they give as a justification, but more than likely, they are not in touch with what prompted them to commit such a stupid act. Unfortunately, the victim of the affair can’t rest until the question is answered to some level of satisfaction.

When it comes to cheating, there is no “good” reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But cheaters tend to always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at two needs found within a marriage, and I’ll give two conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Are You Sure You Want a Divorce?

September 28th, 2015

If you recently found out your spouse cheated, you may feel that’s it: you want a divorce.

Whether a divorce is right for you is something only you can answer.

In this blog, we’ll look at why the decision shouldn’t be made in the early days of the post-affair revelation, and 3 steps for making your choice. Read on…

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Spouse Cheated: Should You Tell Anyone?

September 21st, 2015

After you discover your spouse cheated, you may feel a great deal of shame and embarrassment.

It’s a natural reaction—but it can leave you feeling immobilized and cut off from the rest of the world.

In this blog, I’ll explain why it’s not a good idea to suffer in silence, but also, to be selective about whom you decide to confide in. Please keep reading…

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Emotionally Draining, Nightmare Landscape: Affair Images

August 19th, 2015

Affair victims suffer from post-affair, haunting images of their spouse’s lover, frolicking about, all smiles for the interior camera of the victim’s mind.

It’s torturous to have these images, and yet, many affair victims struggle to make them stop.

It’s not unusual to carry around these images in your mind, but it doesn’t mean these images should not move along, making way for positive thoughts and feelings so you can heal from the pain. I’ll give you 3 steps for ridding your mind of those painful images so your emotions can get on a healing course. Read on…

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Saving Your Marriage on Your Own

July 29th, 2015

Do you feel your relationship with your spouse is slipping away, and your spouse doesn’t seem interested in saving your marriage?

Many people experience this, whether their spouse has had an affair or hasn’t broken off an affair, or the marriage has simply grown stale.

Your spouse may not have reached the point where they’re capable of putting in the effort to save the marriage, while you may be a lot further along than they are in recognizing what’s worth having.

In this post, I’ll give you the steps for changing and saving your marriage when you’re on your own. Read on…

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