Trust: Are you on High Alert or Red Alert?

November 10th, 2011

After you discover your spouse has cheated on you, it feels like trust will never again return to your relationship or how to even begin to forgive a cheating spouse. You don’t know how you’ll ever reach that point after all the pain you’ve endured.

As you try to save your marriage, you know you have a lot of uphill traveling to do. And hopefully, you have a spouse who is more than willing to do everything possible to regain your trust. And yet… you don’t know at what point you will be able once again to give your complete trust to your spouse.

In this blog, we’ll look at 3 ways you can begin to let go of suspicion, and once again let your trust flag fly and forgive a cheating spouse. Please keep reading…

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Break the Anger Response and Regain Love

November 9th, 2011

Do you love your spouse? Is the passion you had when you first met each other still there? Do you share a deep connection with each other?

If you answer “I’m not really sure anymore,” or even “No,” – you don’t have to be ashamed. You share a common problem with many other married people. And often, this feeling of having fallen out of love with your spouse is steeped in one very powerful emotion: anger.

In this blog, I will share with you 3 tips for breaking your anger response so you can feel in love with your spouse once again. Keep reading…

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Just Friends… Or More?

November 7th, 2011

Your spouse has accused you of being a little too chummy with a person of the opposite sex—or maybe even carrying on an emotional affair. You deny any wrong-doing. “We’re just friends!” you insist.

But there is a gnawing feeling in your gut that you are becoming more and more attached to this other person, that it’s a good friendship—but it’s also fulfilling another need for you. And if it hasn’t already happened, you may wonder in the back of your mind if you are on a slippery slope that will inevitably lead to the physical act of cheating.

In today’s blog, we’ll look at 3 red flags that your spouse may be sensing that even you aren’t fully aware of—an emotional affair in the making. Read more…

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After the Affair, Picking Up the Pieces

November 4th, 2011

After the affair, you may find yourself still trying to pick up the pieces of your marriage many months later—and not getting anywhere with your spouse.

Your spouse may be resistant to making changes, for whatever reason. And it seems the more you try to make him or her change, the more resistant they become. You are left feeling frustrated, tired and alone—and like no progress has been made at all in saving your marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to go about picking up the pieces after the affair has devastated your life—and move forward to a point where you feel progress really has been made. Keep reading…

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Chronic Post-Affair Stress: 3-Step Health Plan

October 24th, 2011

The anguish of discovering your spouse cheated: what is the effect on your health?

Nothing that feels this painful can be good. You are no doubt experiencing this firsthand if you’re dealing with the knowledge that you’re married to a cheater.

In today’s blog, we’ll look at how your health can be affected and a 3-step plan to protect it from further harm.

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Is Your Spouse Still Unfaithful?

October 21st, 2011

Are you haunted by thoughts that your spouse is still unfaithful? Post-affair, questions of “is my spouse still unfaithful” can keep you awake at night, worried that your spouse will cheat again.
Suspicion is natural after an affair. But some suspicions are reasonable and others aren’t. Try to distinguish between the two as you work through your post-affair emotions.
In today’s blog, I want to share with you 3 signs that your marriage may be safe from further infidelity. Please keep reading…

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Quiet the Affair Aftershocks (3 Recommendations)

October 17th, 2011

Overcoming infidelity means the affair victim must hurdle a cluster of emotional torments: namely, negative thoughts and images.

Anyone who is the victim of an affair knows that’s no small hurdle.

In this blog, you’ll learn a negative thought/image control plan. Keep reading…

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Post-Affair Emergency Intervention

October 14th, 2011

Here’s a spot-on description of an affair: “a sickening cocktail of anger, grief, frustration, and a total loss of self-esteem.” You could probably give this description your own personalized twist.

What you need in a post-affair situation like this is some emergency intervention.

Read on to learn 3 tips to jump-start your post-affair healing process.

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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He Cheated. Now What?

October 10th, 2011

When you are faced with the evidence that he cheated (and this is applicable to wives who cheat, too), you feel broadsided by the news.

Immediately upon learning of a spouse’s affair, your very next thought may be, “Now what?”

You know it’s going to be a bumpy ride. Let’s look at a few steps to take when you’re first slammed with the revelation that he cheated. Read on…

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