No Time for Jealousy Post-Affair

October 19th, 2015

Your self-esteem may have taken a very long dive after you found out your spouse was involved with another.

That affair has cost you plenty, in terms of emotional energy, negative thoughts, heart-wrenching memories, and potentially, rampant jealousy over the paramour. Don’t waste your time or energy on jealousy of the other woman or man.

In this blog, I’ll tell you what to pool that energy into—and three steps for taking yourself from emotionally degraded to an emotional font of strength. Please keep reading…

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Reignite Romance in Two Steps

September 14th, 2015

After you’ve learned your spouse has had an affair, you may not want your spouse to touch you—and understandably so. Nothing kills romance quicker between a couple than one of the partner’s cheating on the other.

But maybe you’ve reached the decision that you wish to save your marriage. What is the right time for reigniting romance… and what’s the first step?

In this blog, I’ll give you 2 steps you can take to reignite the romance between you and your spouse as you work to save your marriage. Read on…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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The 3 Steps for Regaining Security, Post-Affair

March 25th, 2015

Presently, after the affair, your world may feel untethered. You may have lost a sense of security that your marriage once provided and the feel of a firm foundation beneath you.

Perhaps you have a family to consider, children who could be negatively impacted by your cheating spouse’s decisions. You have your marriage to consider, asking yourself whether you should try to save your marriage. You may also have a job to juggle—your emotional pain and turmoil throwing off your ability to focus.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why it’s essential that you focus on yourself, and provide some steps you can take to dig deep and regain a sense of security that can only be found in you. Read on…

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Cheaters Learn the Truth about Affairs

April 9th, 2012

Some cheaters will admit that they felt they may be “missing out” on something by being married. So, your spouse’s answer to that idea was to have an affair.

But, cheaters soon find out the truth.

In this blog, I’ll tell you what the vast majority of cheaters discover, and 3 tips for rebuilding your marriage after an affair. Keep reading…

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After the Affair: Is Your Marriage Kaput?

January 20th, 2012

Your marriage may have had ups and downs, and you’ve weathered a lot of rocky terrain together as a couple.

But if your spouse has cheated, after the affair you’re wondering: is it over for us?

Coping with an affair (or other traumatic event in your marriage) is one of the most difficult emotional experiences you can experience. In this blog, we’ll look at the difficult question of whether or not your marriage is over, and 3 steps to help you in your decision. Please read on…

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After an Affair: Why You Are Still Angry

November 16th, 2011

After an affair, you’re angry—angrier than you’ve ever been.

It’s understandable. When the person you love and trust most in the world betrays you by cheating, and telling you lie after lie to cover their tracks, it’s only natural to feel angry.
You have every right to your angry feelings. This anger can be useful, but there comes a time when expressing your angry feelings gets to a point of diminishing returns, creating more problems than it solves.

In today’s blog, I will explain 3 reasons why, after an affair, you may be holding on to your anger, and offer some tips for expressing your feelings in a more meaningful way so you can begin to let them go. Read on…

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After the Affair, Picking Up the Pieces

November 4th, 2011

After the affair, you may find yourself still trying to pick up the pieces of your marriage many months later—and not getting anywhere with your spouse.

Your spouse may be resistant to making changes, for whatever reason. And it seems the more you try to make him or her change, the more resistant they become. You are left feeling frustrated, tired and alone—and like no progress has been made at all in saving your marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to go about picking up the pieces after the affair has devastated your life—and move forward to a point where you feel progress really has been made. Keep reading…

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After the Affair: How to Eliminate the Negative Images

May 12th, 2011

Imagine being chained to a chair in front of your television, forced to watch a disturbing series of horror-drenched shows that are upsetting and leave you emotionally distraught. You struggle, but you’re unable to break away from viewing them.

Welcome to this scenario’s equivalent: post-affair images.

Learn how to yank the plug on these horrific, affair-induced images—and reclaim your interior, mental television. Keep reading for your negative image elimination plan.

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