The Link Between Anger and Forgiveness

June 15th, 2016

Forgiveness is a challenge, and there is one obstacle in particular that could be preventing you from extending forgiveness to a partner who has wronged you.

That one obstacle is anger. Where anger lurks, forgiveness isn’t likely to occupy the same space.

For the victim, there is a process you must move through to get past the obstacle and into a place where you can either offer forgiveness or not—and be at peace with both your decision and where you are.

In this blog, I’ll tell you more about the process, as well as offer you 2 tips to move forward past the anger and into a space where you can decide if forgiveness is something you even want to offer. Read on…

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Why Resentment Makes You See Spouse as the Enemy

November 18th, 2011

Are you in love, or in anger, with your spouse, and it’s causing marriage problems?

When feelings of love die in a marriage, the person who is no longer “in love” is often “in anger” instead, characterized by underlying resentful feelings—which causes marriage problems. Resentment you feel toward your spouse can shred any feelings of being “in love” that you ever had.

In this blog, we will look at resentment and how it creeps in and steals the love right out of your marriage, and 2 steps for getting it out of your marriage so you can rebuild the love. Keep reading…

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After an Affair: Why You Are Still Angry

November 16th, 2011

After an affair, you’re angry—angrier than you’ve ever been.

It’s understandable. When the person you love and trust most in the world betrays you by cheating, and telling you lie after lie to cover their tracks, it’s only natural to feel angry.
You have every right to your angry feelings. This anger can be useful, but there comes a time when expressing your angry feelings gets to a point of diminishing returns, creating more problems than it solves.

In today’s blog, I will explain 3 reasons why, after an affair, you may be holding on to your anger, and offer some tips for expressing your feelings in a more meaningful way so you can begin to let them go. Read on…

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Why acting angry doesn’t work…

July 28th, 2009

Sorry for the delay in posting my blog over the last 2 weeks. I am putting together a new project and that has been eating up a lot of my time. Ok onto this weeks blog.

Do you have moments when something your spouse says or does makes you boil over in rage?

Are you angry at how irresponsible your partner is?

Are you seething because you’ve been confronted with an affair?

Anger is a perfectly natural emotion. It’s something all of us deal with from time to time.

And there are plenty of opportunities to feel angry when you’re married. People come into relationships with different backgrounds and different personal agendas, and sometimes these differences cause friction between the two people.

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