Can Negativity Be a Good Thing?

August 1st, 2016

You and your partner may be trying to remove all the negativity that occurs between you.

If so, don’t waste your time.

Now, that would seem like advice that runs contrary to anything that you’ve ever heard or read before.

In this blog, I’ll explain what may at first seem to be beyond explanation. Then, I’ll give you 2 tips for where you and your partner should place your focus. Please keep reading…

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2 Ways to Manage the Emotional Cauldron of Anger

May 30th, 2016

Relationships in which a couple struggles to express their feelings as they’re happening and work together to resolve them can create a lot of anger.

Anger that isn’t checked can derail a relationship. It pushes people apart and leads to more licking of wounds than repairing the rift.

Most people who have a lot of anger in their relationship would love to find a way to end the anger and feel good about being with their partner again. Unfortunately, anger can become a very bad habit that’s difficult to escape.

In this blog, I’ll tell you about what anger represents, and offer you 2 ways to manage the anger in your relationship. Please keep reading…

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Two Types of Anger that Creep into Relationships

May 11th, 2016

There are two types of anger, and they can become detrimental to you if they linger.

Maybe your partner cheated, or blew every cent in your joint savings account, or invites family to stay over for weeks on end, expecting you to look after the guests…

No doubt you have a right to your anger if you are being put into less than favorable situations. But it’s up to you whether you want to exercise your right to anger, and for how long.

In this blog, I’ll tell you the two types of anger, and tips to effectively manage anger. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Minefields (Avoid This at All Costs)

November 9th, 2015

If you are working to salvage your relationship after your partner’s affair, there are certain things to avoid doing that can throw off your efforts.

When a partner cheats, it takes a lot more to save the relationship than just deciding to patch things up and move forward.

The victim of the affair has a lot to cope with, and there is one potential post-affair minefield that should be avoided at all costs. Today, let’s look at what that is, and why it is so damaging to let into your newly-recreated relationship. Please keep reading…

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Barriers to Post-Affair Healing

August 26th, 2015

As the victim of an affair, you may not be sure how to survive an affair, let alone overcome the barriers to healing you’ll encounter along the way. It is said that time is the true healer, but you are swimming in a sea of pain until sufficient time passes.

As the victim of your spouse’s affair, you may wonder if there is a way to make the process of healing go faster, or the formula for moving from this point of pain—or even if what you’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, you’ll learn how to survive an affair by facing down two monstrous emotions and strategies to cope with these post-affair healing barriers. Please read more…

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The Post-Affair Anger Remedy

August 24th, 2015

When a betrayal happens in a marriage, such as an affair, it’s only natural that the victim feels angry and bitter. You’re disappointed in your spouse, you can’t get the thoughts about the betrayal out of your mind, and your outlook is negative because of these horrid post-affair thoughts and the wash of dark emotions you’re experiencing.

Who wouldn’t be tired, bitter and angry?

And yet, being tired and angry can isolate you, and also can wear down your health.

In this blog, I’ll give you the post-affair, anti-anger, anti-energy-sap remedy. Read on…

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Go Ahead… Go to Bed Angry.

May 13th, 2015

If you and your spouse get into an argument, you may feel pressured to resolve your disagreement before bedtime.

After all, isn’t there a wise old saying about “never going to bed angry”?

You might want to heed the marriage experts’ advice, though: if you and your spouse are fighting, go ahead and go to bed mad. In this blog, I’ll explain why. Read on…

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Is Your Spouse Pressing Your Buttons?

April 20th, 2015

What is it about your spouse that makes you react in ways that no one else causes you to react? Is your spouse deliberately pushing your buttons, or do you have some reaction triggers you aren’t conscious of?

You may not be sure why you react the way you do when your spouse says or does something—but there is a biological reason.

In this blog, we’ll look at where these reactions are born, and I’ll give you 3 steps for managing them a little better to improve communication between you and your spouse. Read more…

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Is Your Spouse in an Emotional Affair?

March 30th, 2012

Is there a new name popping up in conversations with your spouse, stories where this person figures prominently, and you sense there may be the beginnings of an emotional affair?

It’s not uncommon for married people to have what are called “work spouses,” which means they are close to someone at work that is of the opposite sex. What can happen is an emotional tie develops, so that you, the spouse at home, may feel very much that you’re competing with the “other spouse.”

In this blog, I’ll help you understand what an emotional affair is, and how to make it stop. Read on…

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Seething with Post-Affair Anger

March 22nd, 2012

Your spouse cheated, and you are so angry, you don’t know how you’ll ever feel calm, collected and like your old self again. You would settle for just feeling good, rather than having these burning emotions in your heart and gut.

You have every right to be angry. But how do you know when it has crossed the line and become too comfortable?

In this blog, I’ll offer 3 tips for gauging whether or not you’re seething with anger beyond what is healthy for you, and could potentially derail your marriage-saving potential. Keep reading…

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