Did You Get a GOOD Apology? (4 Clues…)

July 20th, 2016

Your partner may have hurt your feelings by saying something unkind. Or worse, maybe your partner betrayed you by having an affair.

And maybe you received an apology of sorts, but you don’t feel as if your partner really got what they did to you. Maybe you doubt their sincerity.

Maybe you question your ability to accept an apology, and you question yourself: “Am I being too picky?”

In this blog, we’ll look at what makes an apology a good one, and I’ll give you 4 clues to look for to help you recognize a good apology when you get it. Read on…

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Study Blasts “Natural Promiscuity” Cheating Excuse

July 27th, 2015

Male cheaters in particular, take note. One study has ripped the rug out from under a favorite, last-defense excuse: “That’s how men are wired.”

The sooner a cheater—either male or female—accepts full personal responsibility for their actions, the sooner they can get to the business of making amends and rebuilding their marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at this study, the real reason a cheater cheats, and what a cheater needs to do to make amends. Please keep reading…

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What Does Forgiveness Mean for YOU?

July 15th, 2015

If your spouse cheated and your marriage is in crisis, your days are more than likely involved with working on saving your marriage.

But the wounds inflicted by the revelation of infidelity may remain deep, with built-up anger and resentment over the breach of trust. You don’t know how you’ll ever get to the point where you are able to move forward and just forgive.

In this blog, let’s examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what forgiveness means to you. It may help you become unstuck, if that’s what you are feeling now. Please keep reading…

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Cheaters Justify their Behavior

June 17th, 2015

Cheaters tend to tell themselves a story about their behavior. They justify their actions, and make you feel as if you’re crazy.

For a lot of people, they simply aren’t sure where the lines of cheating are. They have gotten their ideas from movies, songs, second-hand stories… but most people don’t sit down and figure out what the true depth of cheating is.

Also, your spouse may have a small view of what makes cheating actual “cheating” because they don’t want to admit that their actions could be defined as such.

In this blog, I’ll give you the definition of cheating, so you and your spouse will not have any miscommunication about exactly where the lines are—and why their behavior is destroying your marriage. Please read more…

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Once A Cheater, Always…?

June 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage, but one question keeps playing in your head: “once a cheater, always a cheater?”

While many believe that a cheater can never change, we as humans have an enormous capacity to make positive changes. Does this mean your spouse definitively won’t cheat again?

In this blog, I’ll give you three indications of a right and narrow path on the part of your spouse that you can look for so to determine what your spouse may do in the future. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Why Do You Need the “I’m Sorry?”

March 23rd, 2012

Has your spouse said a simple “I’m sorry” for cheating on you? Asked you for forgiveness? Done anything to regain your favor?

You’ve probably heard your spouse apologize before, maybe for accidentally knocking into you and sloshing the coffee you were holding, or taking the last bit of coffee.

How can you consider forgiving your spouse for having an affair, when all he or she seems to do is ignore the whole matter, as if it were no more real than just a very bad nightmare you awoke from?

In this blog, I’ll help you understand how necessary the idea of forgiveness is for you, giving you a three-step analysis to work through. Keep reading…

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What Makes a Good Apology? 4 Key Elements.

March 8th, 2012

If your partner has done the unimaginable, such as have an affair, what makes an apology from him or her a good one, that allows you to heal from the pain and rebuild your marriage?

There’s an art to an apology—and not everyone is good at it. There are even some people who are incapable of apologizing: it would simply cost them too much to admit to being wrong.

In this blog, we’ll explore the art of the apology, and I’ll offer you some ideas on how to recognize a good apology: it includes 4 key elements. Please keep reading…

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Evaluating the Idea of Forgiveness in Your Marriage

July 6th, 2011

Whether your spouse has said they’re sorry and asked for your forgiveness or not, you may still struggle with the idea of forgiving their heinous, cheating actions.

It’s a thorny question: should you forgive your cheating spouse, or should you not offer them the absolution of your forgiveness? And if they haven’t asked for forgiveness, what does it mean for you?

Read on to determine the answer that fits your situation.

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Start the New Year By Examining “Forgiveness” in Your Marriage

December 28th, 2010

If your spouse cheated and your marriage is in crisis, your New Year’s resolutions more than likely involve saving your marriage.

But the wounds inflicted by the revelation of infidelity may still be fresh, and you have so much anger, you don’t know how you’ll ever get to the point where you are able to move forward.

Your spouse may have said “I’m sorry,” but it rang hollow to you—the words not giving you the closure you thought they would. Or, maybe you are still waiting to hear your spouse express remorse, and you feel your life is on hold until he or she does.

In this blog, you will go through an exercise to help you examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what the idea of forgiveness means to you. It may provide you with a new idea of how to move forward into the New Year.

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Forgiveness – Is It Necessary?

May 18th, 2010

“The one thing I’ve never heard him say is a simple “I’m sorry.” I’ve heard that much when he has stepped on my foot accidentally. But carry on an affair for five months? To him, it barely deserves a mention. The most I’ve gotten are some excuses and a lot of shrugs. How am I supposed to forgive him, when he hasn’t even asked for forgiveness, and he doesn’t think it’s even an issue?

If your spouse cheated and he or she isn’t showing authentic remorse, you are probably feeling insult added to injury, and you might also be feeling some or all of the following:

1. Puzzled by your spouse’s “not getting it” when it seems so obvious to you.

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