3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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The Link Between Anger and Forgiveness

June 15th, 2016

Forgiveness is a challenge, and there is one obstacle in particular that could be preventing you from extending forgiveness to a partner who has wronged you.

That one obstacle is anger. Where anger lurks, forgiveness isn’t likely to occupy the same space.

For the victim, there is a process you must move through to get past the obstacle and into a place where you can either offer forgiveness or not—and be at peace with both your decision and where you are.

In this blog, I’ll tell you more about the process, as well as offer you 2 tips to move forward past the anger and into a space where you can decide if forgiveness is something you even want to offer. Read on…

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2 Ways to Manage the Emotional Cauldron of Anger

May 30th, 2016

Relationships in which a couple struggles to express their feelings as they’re happening and work together to resolve them can create a lot of anger.

Anger that isn’t checked can derail a relationship. It pushes people apart and leads to more licking of wounds than repairing the rift.

Most people who have a lot of anger in their relationship would love to find a way to end the anger and feel good about being with their partner again. Unfortunately, anger can become a very bad habit that’s difficult to escape.

In this blog, I’ll tell you about what anger represents, and offer you 2 ways to manage the anger in your relationship. Please keep reading…

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Affair-proofing (Follow these 3 Tips)

December 23rd, 2015

Wouldn’t it be great if you could wave a wand and never, ever have to experience the pain of an affair? Never feel the agony of betrayal by your lover?

Affair victims can attest: the pain of an affair ranks up there with some of the worst experiences in life. When affair victims first discover the treachery of their partner, it feels as if a mortal blow has been struck. Peace of mind is destroyed, with negative thought loops playing over and over along with a sea of negative emotions.

These victims wish they could go back in time and figure out a way to prevent the affair from ever happening.

I am going to give you 3 tips today for affair-proofing your relationship. There is no guarantee, but this is the closest you can get to one. Please keep reading…

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Do You Have What it Takes to Survive the Affair?

October 26th, 2015

Surviving the affair of your spouse is one of the most difficult, challenging things you’ll ever work to accomplish. Are you up to the task?
Cheating causes a depth of painful emotions that is almost impossible to describe—you only realize how deep if you experience it yourself.

Even cheater can go through emotional turmoil thanks to their thoughtless actions.

In this blog, I will provide you with 3 different options for managing those post-affair emotions in a healthy way. It will give you what you need to move forward, survive infidelity and decide if you want to save your marriage. Please read more…

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The Forgiveness Dilemma (Tips on Managing Stages)

August 31st, 2015

Forgiveness? If your spouse cheated on you, probably one of the last thoughts you have right now is whether or not you should forgive.

Doesn’t that imply that you should somehow forget the betrayal?

Forgiveness is in the eye of the beholder: when you behold your cheating spouse before you, what are you thinking?

In this blog, we’ll examine forgiveness, and some of the back-and-forth stages you may need to go through before you can reach a place to even consider the question. Please keep reading…

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The Post-Affair Anger Remedy

August 24th, 2015

When a betrayal happens in a marriage, such as an affair, it’s only natural that the victim feels angry and bitter. You’re disappointed in your spouse, you can’t get the thoughts about the betrayal out of your mind, and your outlook is negative because of these horrid post-affair thoughts and the wash of dark emotions you’re experiencing.

Who wouldn’t be tired, bitter and angry?

And yet, being tired and angry can isolate you, and also can wear down your health.

In this blog, I’ll give you the post-affair, anti-anger, anti-energy-sap remedy. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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Save Your Marriage: Reignite Bedroom with…

April 13th, 2015

If your marriage is failing, what are you doing to spice things up and save your marriage from divorce?

There has been a lot of talk in the news recently about a book that is reigniting bedrooms everywhere: Fifty Shades of Grey is the title, and some of the controversy surrounding it is adding to its popularity.

In this blog, we’ll look at what you can do to spice up your love life with your spouse. Please keep reading…

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Eliminate Images of the “OTHER”

March 21st, 2012

Your spouse has made your life miserable by having an affair. You can make yourself miserable by replaying images of the paramour over and over in your head.

It’s a terrible position your spouse has put you in: you didn’t ask for this pain, and yet, it has been handed to you. If you know who the paramour is, you already have a visual of them that you’ll replay over and over—with your spouse, flirting, striking poses—whatever the image pops up as.

And if you don’t know what the paramour looks like, unfortunately, your mind will supply an image.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 steps to end the image horror show. Read on…

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