Break the Anger Response and Regain Love

November 9th, 2011

Do you love your spouse? Is the passion you had when you first met each other still there? Do you share a deep connection with each other?

If you answer “I’m not really sure anymore,” or even “No,” – you don’t have to be ashamed. You share a common problem with many other married people. And often, this feeling of having fallen out of love with your spouse is steeped in one very powerful emotion: anger.

In this blog, I will share with you 3 tips for breaking your anger response so you can feel in love with your spouse once again. Keep reading…

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Why Do Women Have Affairs? Stop from Happening Again.

October 3rd, 2011

Why do women have affairs?

Often, men will blame themselves. “It must have been something I did – or didn’t – do.”

After the revelation of a spouse’s affair, these are common victim questions and answers. In this blog, you’ll learn why women have affairs, and how to stop an affair from happening again – even if you can’t change the past. Keep reading…

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Jealous of Spouse? Managing Your Internal Comfort Boundary

September 7th, 2011

Maybe you were at a party and your spouse was just a little too friendly with the females. Or your wife wears clothes that you feel are a little bit too revealing for those work meetings.

And maybe you’ve reacted. Badly. In the heat of the moment, your imagination running wild, you accused your spouse of being a cheater, or looking for someone to cheat with.

Jealousy, the so-called “green-eyed monster,” can be a destructive force in a marriage. Here’s what to do to ensure it doesn’t drive a further wedge between you and your spouse and undo the very foundation of your marriage. Keep reading for four steps to take…

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The #1 Reason to NOT Bottle Up Your Pain

April 28th, 2011

Did you know that not expressing your pain to your spouse could increase your risk for serious diseases, such as heart disease and cancer?

As a victim of cheating, what has been unleashed on you is a world of hurt. And one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have is finding the words to tell your spouse how terribly hurt you are by their affair. The affair has devastated you—emotionally, psychologically – and even physically. You may feel a tremendous amount of stress and pressure.

You need to communicate these feelings and emotions to your spouse—for the sake of your marriage—and for your personal health. In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for making this conversation happen.

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Revive and Rebuild Your Intimacy Sectors Post-Affair

April 21st, 2011

In the initial aftermath of an affair, it’s hard for you as the victim to think about how you’ll ever bridge the gap between here, amidst pain and anguish—and there, a strong partnership and intimate connection with your spouse.

The thought of being physical once again with your cheating spouse may be too much for you to consider right now. But to have a deeply fulfilling relationship once again—the kind of marriage you deserve—you will need to take steps to move in this direction at some point.

In this blog, I want to share with you the triangle that makes up total intimacy within a marriage, and two intimacy sectors to rebuild after the affair to help you move forward in saving your marriage.

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Surviving Infidelity and the Emotional Pain

April 14th, 2011

Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.

But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.

It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.

In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.

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Why do Men Cheat? Emotional Affairs may Offer a Clue

April 7th, 2011

What’s cheating? Do you and your spouse argue over whether some of their relationships walk a fine line between friendship and affair?

Many couples have this debate. Your husband or wife may have a friend of the opposite sex that they talk to and occasionally see for lunch. Or, it’s someone your spouse just met. And most disagree at what point the spouse is getting a little too close to someone outside of the marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to define this type of relationship, and 3 steps to bring the emotional connection back home and save your marriage.

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Cheating Husbands… are Wives Responsible?

March 31st, 2011

You found out your spouse had an affair, and the indescribable devastation you feel has shredded your emotions and taken over your every thought.

You realize that marriage is a partnership, and as such, there’s a part of you that wants to shoulder some of the blame for your spouse’s cheating.

Don’t you dare.

Your responsibility comes now, post-affair. In this blog, we’ll look at 3 key responsibilities you have now that the affair is out in the open and as you try to pick up the pieces of your life and your marriage.

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Coping with Infidelity and the Neglect Justification

March 24th, 2011

Cheaters can’t always say why they stepped outside of their marriage and had an affair. They’re probably not very sure themselves of the “reason” why.

When it comes to cheating, there is no clear reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But victims of affairs always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at just 2 needs found within a marriage, and I’ll provide you with conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage.

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Adultery: Trusting Your Spouse After the Affair

March 17th, 2011

So you may not be able to say at this moment, “I 100% trust my spouse.” But if you were to discover that you could trust your spouse 25%, 50%–or even 75%, how would that make you feel about the chances of success for saving your marriage?

The shockwave of an affair is widespread: your feelings are crushed, your heart aches, and your marriage foundation has crumbled into pieces.

But what many victims of an affair find most devastating is having their trust in their spouse and in their marriage vows destroyed. Nothing annihilates trust like a spouse’s affair. You know that without trust, efforts to save your marriage are doomed.

In this blog, we’re going to look at 3 forms of trust in a relationship, and how to rate how much trust you really have in your spouse.

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