3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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Did You Get a GOOD Apology? (4 Clues…)

July 20th, 2016

Your partner may have hurt your feelings by saying something unkind. Or worse, maybe your partner betrayed you by having an affair.

And maybe you received an apology of sorts, but you don’t feel as if your partner really got what they did to you. Maybe you doubt their sincerity.

Maybe you question your ability to accept an apology, and you question yourself: “Am I being too picky?”

In this blog, we’ll look at what makes an apology a good one, and I’ll give you 4 clues to look for to help you recognize a good apology when you get it. Read on…

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One Foot in the Relationship

May 16th, 2016

There’s one heartbreaking additional burden that some victims of affairs are forced to deal with, and that’s when the cheater keeps just one foot in the marriage, and the other is in the extramarital relationship.

What should you do when confronted with this horrible situation, where your partner’s indecisiveness is tearing you apart?

In this blog, we’ll look at what to do with a partner who thinks one foot in the relationship is fun living for the victim… and what the victim’s options are. Please keep reading…

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70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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Affair-proofing (Follow these 3 Tips)

December 23rd, 2015

Wouldn’t it be great if you could wave a wand and never, ever have to experience the pain of an affair? Never feel the agony of betrayal by your lover?

Affair victims can attest: the pain of an affair ranks up there with some of the worst experiences in life. When affair victims first discover the treachery of their partner, it feels as if a mortal blow has been struck. Peace of mind is destroyed, with negative thought loops playing over and over along with a sea of negative emotions.

These victims wish they could go back in time and figure out a way to prevent the affair from ever happening.

I am going to give you 3 tips today for affair-proofing your relationship. There is no guarantee, but this is the closest you can get to one. Please keep reading…

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Why Cheaters Cheat (1 Common, Controversial Reason)

December 21st, 2015

For victims of an affair, one of the top-ranked questions for cheaters is, “Why?”

There are other questions tacked on to that simple question, such as “How could you do this to me?” and “How could you throw away X years of our relationship?”

But the main thing victims want is some sort of explanation that makes sense. Not only that—they want an internal light bulb to go off, one that gives them perfect understanding while releasing the all-but-unbearable pain and disappointment: “Aha, now I understand! I am satisfied with the reason and feel at peace now.”

There is one universal reason, which is somewhat controversial to say, as to why cheaters cheat. It may or may not be a satisfying reason, but it strikes to the core of how a cheater arrived at their ill-fated decision. Read on to find out…

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Do You Have What it Takes to Survive the Affair?

October 26th, 2015

Surviving the affair of your spouse is one of the most difficult, challenging things you’ll ever work to accomplish. Are you up to the task?
Cheating causes a depth of painful emotions that is almost impossible to describe—you only realize how deep if you experience it yourself.

Even cheater can go through emotional turmoil thanks to their thoughtless actions.

In this blog, I will provide you with 3 different options for managing those post-affair emotions in a healthy way. It will give you what you need to move forward, survive infidelity and decide if you want to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Science Supports Shocking Idea that “Revenge is Sweet”

October 5th, 2015

What affair victim hasn’t fantasized about a way to get revenge on their cheating spouse?

But there is an ocean of distance between fantasy and the actual reality of carrying out a revenge plot.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 tips for resisting the urge for revenge as well as how to exorcise those infidelity demons that haunt you. Read on…

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Are You Sure You Want a Divorce?

September 28th, 2015

If you recently found out your spouse cheated, you may feel that’s it: you want a divorce.

Whether a divorce is right for you is something only you can answer.

In this blog, we’ll look at why the decision shouldn’t be made in the early days of the post-affair revelation, and 3 steps for making your choice. Read on…

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Spouse Cheated: Should You Tell Anyone?

September 21st, 2015

After you discover your spouse cheated, you may feel a great deal of shame and embarrassment.

It’s a natural reaction—but it can leave you feeling immobilized and cut off from the rest of the world.

In this blog, I’ll explain why it’s not a good idea to suffer in silence, but also, to be selective about whom you decide to confide in. Please keep reading…

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