Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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The Gut Punch of Post-affair Emotions

March 30th, 2015

Nothing can quite prepare you for post-affair emotions and all the associated trauma. You’ll have more ups and downs than a shaky stock market.

The pain is yours to bear alone. No matter how remorseful your cheating spouse may be, they can’t take on your emotional pain or otherwise wipe it away.

In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for managing post-affair emotions, helping you to regain a feeling of sanity during this trying time. Please keep reading…

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The 3 Steps for Regaining Security, Post-Affair

March 25th, 2015

Presently, after the affair, your world may feel untethered. You may have lost a sense of security that your marriage once provided and the feel of a firm foundation beneath you.

Perhaps you have a family to consider, children who could be negatively impacted by your cheating spouse’s decisions. You have your marriage to consider, asking yourself whether you should try to save your marriage. You may also have a job to juggle—your emotional pain and turmoil throwing off your ability to focus.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why it’s essential that you focus on yourself, and provide some steps you can take to dig deep and regain a sense of security that can only be found in you. Read on…

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The 3 Barriers to Forgiveness

March 16th, 2015

One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse.

The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing.

In this blog, we’ll look at three barriers to forgiveness, if you find yourself stuck. Read on…

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One Step Forward to Rebuilding Your Marriage

April 6th, 2012

After an affair, how can you and your spouse communicate again at a level where you can move forward?

Maybe every attempt to talk quickly dissolves into shouting out your anger, frustration and pain. You may not be able to believe anything your spouse says.

In this blog, I am going to share with you one of the most critical components that must be agreed upon by both partners in order to establish a strong communication pathway so you can save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Where’s the Cheater’s Remorse?

April 4th, 2012

Your cheating spouse may not be behaving as if they feel remorseful about committing infidelity. Either through action or inaction, your spouse may not be giving you any cues that he or she is sorry for their actions.

This may anger and frustrate you, and lead to you experiencing even more pain. When you observe your cheating spouse going about daily business like nothing has happened, it’s easy to feel as if your spouse isn’t capable of guilt.

In this blog, I am going to help you understand the 3 roadblocks a cheating spouse may be facing and why he or she is showing a lack of remorse. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Why Do You Need the “I’m Sorry?”

March 23rd, 2012

Has your spouse said a simple “I’m sorry” for cheating on you? Asked you for forgiveness? Done anything to regain your favor?

You’ve probably heard your spouse apologize before, maybe for accidentally knocking into you and sloshing the coffee you were holding, or taking the last bit of coffee.

How can you consider forgiving your spouse for having an affair, when all he or she seems to do is ignore the whole matter, as if it were no more real than just a very bad nightmare you awoke from?

In this blog, I’ll help you understand how necessary the idea of forgiveness is for you, giving you a three-step analysis to work through. Keep reading…

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Time To Release Your Grudge Against Cheating Spouse?

March 15th, 2012

If your spouse cheated on you some time ago, are you still holding a grudge?

When a spouse betrays you, it can cause you to feel emotions you didn’t know you had, thoughts you didn’t realize you were capable of—and even alter your personality because of the blow you received.

However, if you want to save your marriage, you know at some point, you need to let go of any grudges you’re holding.

In this blog, we’ll look at what holding a grudge against a cheating spouse is really about, and 3 steps for moving forward. Read on…

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Communicate About Affair Feelings

March 12th, 2012

So you and your spouse can’t seem to talk about the affair without a major emotional blow-up happening each time.

That’s perfectly understandable. At the same time, you know you’re stuck in a relationship limbo until you can communicate your feelings about the affair. Once you feel you’ve gotten your feelings across and release some of the pain, maybe you can move forward and start to rebuild your marriage.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 tips for communicating about the affair so you can find some pain relief. Please keep reading….

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What Makes a Good Apology? 4 Key Elements.

March 8th, 2012

If your partner has done the unimaginable, such as have an affair, what makes an apology from him or her a good one, that allows you to heal from the pain and rebuild your marriage?

There’s an art to an apology—and not everyone is good at it. There are even some people who are incapable of apologizing: it would simply cost them too much to admit to being wrong.

In this blog, we’ll explore the art of the apology, and I’ll offer you some ideas on how to recognize a good apology: it includes 4 key elements. Please keep reading…

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