3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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Did You Get a GOOD Apology? (4 Clues…)

July 20th, 2016

Your partner may have hurt your feelings by saying something unkind. Or worse, maybe your partner betrayed you by having an affair.

And maybe you received an apology of sorts, but you don’t feel as if your partner really got what they did to you. Maybe you doubt their sincerity.

Maybe you question your ability to accept an apology, and you question yourself: “Am I being too picky?”

In this blog, we’ll look at what makes an apology a good one, and I’ll give you 4 clues to look for to help you recognize a good apology when you get it. Read on…

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The Painful Blow of an Emotional Affair

June 29th, 2016

Have you sensed that your partner isn’t fully plugged into your relationship, but can’t put your finger on it?

Maybe that led you to feeling tempted to check your partner’s messages, whether it’s texting, phone records, or emails—and you discovered something that floored you and shook your faith in your partner’s fidelity.

With the abundance of available technologies for making connections, there seem to be even more opportunities for someone to be unfaithful.

Often, the connections that are being made don’t even have to be physical. Your partner could be forming a bond with someone of the opposite sex… and one that can be almost as devastating as a full-blown sexual affair.

In this blog, we’ll look at why discovering a partner’s emotional affair can be such a painful blow, and the reason why those involved in emotional affairs don’t initially recognize how damaging they are. Then, I’ll give you 3 questions to ask yourself to determine whether or not it’s an emotional affair. Read on…

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The Link Between Anger and Forgiveness

June 15th, 2016

Forgiveness is a challenge, and there is one obstacle in particular that could be preventing you from extending forgiveness to a partner who has wronged you.

That one obstacle is anger. Where anger lurks, forgiveness isn’t likely to occupy the same space.

For the victim, there is a process you must move through to get past the obstacle and into a place where you can either offer forgiveness or not—and be at peace with both your decision and where you are.

In this blog, I’ll tell you more about the process, as well as offer you 2 tips to move forward past the anger and into a space where you can decide if forgiveness is something you even want to offer. Read on…

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70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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Emotional Affairs: Is it Really Cheating?

October 21st, 2015

What makes cheating, well… cheating? And what, for example, makes a man want to cheat, and where’s the fine line between faithful and unfaithful?

Maybe you and your spouse have had arguments over an outside relationship that you feel could lead directly to an affair. Meanwhile, your spouse protests that nothing of the sort could ever happen.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to define an outside relationship, and I’ll give you 3 steps to begin using today to tighten up your emotional connection and save your marriage. Read on…

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How to Break Post-Affair Negative Thought Pattern

September 16th, 2015

Have you been deeply injured by your spouse’s affair? You may be wondering how to get over the affair faster so you can stop feeling as if you’re losing your mind.

Right now, your mind may very well be unmoored—but it’s not permanent. What you’ve really lost is the ability to manage your own thoughts.

In this blog, I’ll share with you how to get over an affair using some methods for getting your thoughts back under your control once again, putting an end to those negative thoughts that continue to haunt you. Read on…

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Affair Victims, Regain What You’ve Lost

August 5th, 2015

Dealing with the aftermath of your spouse’s affair is an emotionally-laden time. You’ve lost a lot as a result of your spouse’s cheating, maybe even your sense of self-respect and how you value yourself.

If your self-respect has been demolished, please know that you can regain it and feel strong once again. The affair was not your fault, so punishing yourself by doubting your worth is something you will need to let go of.

In this blog, I’ll give you 3 keys to get you started on your return to a sense of self-worth and respect for the great person you are. Keep reading…

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Affairs: Doing the Math, It Doesn’t Add Up

July 22nd, 2015

If you were given the choice between having $1,000 or $100, I doubt you would say “Just give me $100.”

Yet every day, there’s a cheater somewhere making a stupid decision exactly like that.

In this blog, I’m going to explain what I mean. You will discover that when it comes to infidelity, the math doesn’t add up. Read on…

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How to End Your Spouse’s Affair

July 6th, 2015

Your spouse may not have broken off his or her relationship with the paramour, or has in some way left the door open to the relationship.

As the affair victim, you may feel powerless in this situation. Already knocked off your feet by the affair revelation, you don’t know how you’ll find the strength to move forward, much less end your spouse’s affair.

In this blog, here’s what I want to do: show you that you do possess the strength, and the best way to get your spouse to quit his or her cheating ways. Read on…

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