The Secret Ingredient of Long-Married Couples

August 24th, 2016

Long-married couples are a little disappointed in younger couples who split up.

It seems to these long-marrieds that couples are missing out on a secret ingredient.

Do you and your partner have it?

In this blog, I’ll give you the secret ingredient after first telling you about a common experience for all long-married couples. Please keep reading…

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Why Cheaters Cheat (1 Common, Controversial Reason)

December 21st, 2015

For victims of an affair, one of the top-ranked questions for cheaters is, “Why?”

There are other questions tacked on to that simple question, such as “How could you do this to me?” and “How could you throw away X years of our relationship?”

But the main thing victims want is some sort of explanation that makes sense. Not only that—they want an internal light bulb to go off, one that gives them perfect understanding while releasing the all-but-unbearable pain and disappointment: “Aha, now I understand! I am satisfied with the reason and feel at peace now.”

There is one universal reason, which is somewhat controversial to say, as to why cheaters cheat. It may or may not be a satisfying reason, but it strikes to the core of how a cheater arrived at their ill-fated decision. Read on to find out…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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Saving Your Marriage on Your Own

July 29th, 2015

Do you feel your relationship with your spouse is slipping away, and your spouse doesn’t seem interested in saving your marriage?

Many people experience this, whether their spouse has had an affair or hasn’t broken off an affair, or the marriage has simply grown stale.

Your spouse may not have reached the point where they’re capable of putting in the effort to save the marriage, while you may be a lot further along than they are in recognizing what’s worth having.

In this post, I’ll give you the steps for changing and saving your marriage when you’re on your own. Read on…

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Divorce: When is it the Answer?

May 4th, 2015

Are you and your spouse considering a divorce?

Maybe your spouse cheated, and you don’t believe your relationship can survive the affair. Or, you’ve simply lost that loving feeling for one another.

How do you know divorce is the right thing to do?

In this blog, we’ll explore how to answer that question for yourself and your marriage. Read on…

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Post-Affair Help: Reintroduce This into your Marriage

March 9th, 2015

Prior to the affair, your marriage had probably entered a deep rut. The affair has exploded onto your marriage scene like a bomb, with debris everywhere. You need post-affair help to clean up this mess your spouse has made.

A lot of couples who are working to survive an affair feel that it’s all bad news from that point on: there will be tear, recriminations, blame, resentment, anger.

No one is going to suggest that those elements won’t be present in a post-affair marriage. At first, you have a lot of rock ground to work through. However, at some point—if you decide to rebuild your marriage—you will need to move forward as a couple.

In this post, I’ll offer some ideas to help spring you free from the marital-rut your marriage had fallen into prior to the affair. Read on…

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Pump Up the Romance (3 Clever Ways…)

February 17th, 2012

I’m willing to bet that when you first started dating, everything was exciting. You had emotional and physical sparks between you, and your talking and laughing came with ease.
A few years down the road now into married life, and you wonder: where did the romance go?
If you feel the romantic spark dimming in your marriage, you are far from alone. So, in today’s blog, I want to share 3 ideas that you can use starting right now to get back some of that romantic magic. Please keep reading to get that spice reintroduced…

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Getting Over Cheating: Make Marriage Better

January 25th, 2012

You and your spouse may be working at getting over cheating that has occurred in your marriage, but inside you’re wondering: “Can our marriage go back to what it used to be?”

The question you may want to ask instead is, “Do I really want my marriage to go back to what it used to be?”

In this blog, you’ll learn the three ingredients for making your marriage better than it ever was before. Keep reading…

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Saving a Marriage: Does Your Spouse Still Love You?

January 13th, 2012

If your spouse has cheated on you, one question that you may have asked yourself is, “Does my spouse still love me?” You wonder how to go about saving a marriage that may lack love.

You look at it from your perspective: you love your husband or wife, and you could never cheat on him or her and cause them that kind of pain. So, if your spouse really loved you, how could they do this to you?

In this blog, I will give you some insight about the relationship between cheating and love of a spouse, and offer you two steps on how to think about the question of whether or not your spouse loves you. Read on…

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How to Fix a Marriage Gridlock (3 Tips)

January 2nd, 2012

Here’s how to fix a marriage gridlock situation in a nutshell: do something different than what you’ve been doing.

If your marriage is gridlocked in some sort of holding pattern, it may feel good that it’s not moving backward. But at the same time, you’re miserable because it’s not moving forward.

In this blog, I offer you 3 tips on how to fix your marriage so that it moves out of the holding pattern and into drive. Keep reading…

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