Does Your Marriage Have The Code in Place?

August 12th, 2015

Do you want to save your marriage, but don’t know how to trust your spouse again?

You realize that if you don’t find a way to trust your spouse, it will mean the end of your marriage. You’re stuck: you don’t trust your spouse, and your spouse doesn’t know how to make you believe in them again, and you keep waiting to really know that your spouse is being honest with you.

That’s where your attempts to save your marriage may be struggling most: what you’re focusing on. Read on to learn the basic guidelines for rebuilding trust…

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Affairs: Doing the Math, It Doesn’t Add Up

July 22nd, 2015

If you were given the choice between having $1,000 or $100, I doubt you would say “Just give me $100.”

Yet every day, there’s a cheater somewhere making a stupid decision exactly like that.

In this blog, I’m going to explain what I mean. You will discover that when it comes to infidelity, the math doesn’t add up. Read on…

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Keep Spouse’s Attention on the Marriage, Not Affair Fantasies

June 24th, 2015

Whether or not you are dealing with a cheating spouse—or a spouse who is on the edge of cheating, your marriage may still have very big issues that need solving.

Looking outside of the marriage can seem like the “answer” to some spouses. After all, new relationships don’t have the messy problems that a marriage can build up over time. The only problem is… being married.

In this post, let’s look at your relationship and identify ways to remove the “grass is greener” mentality of looking outside of the marriage as a mechanism for avoiding the work involved to fix what’s broken. Read on…

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Post-Affair Marriage: Better than Before?

June 3rd, 2015

Your spouse’s cheating can almost destroy the foundation of your marriage.

Despite the devastation, many victims of an affair have a desire to save their marriage. The affair is like a bad dream, a tough obstacle to overcome. An affair victim may think, “I have invested many years with this person—sacrificing, negotiating and accommodating—why should I give all that effort away to someone else? I want things to go back to the way they once were.”

In this post, I’ll show you why going “back” may not be the best direction for you, and give you some steps to move your efforts forward to save your marriage. Please read more…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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Jealousy: Undermining Marriage-Saving Efforts?

May 20th, 2015

A spouse’s affair can cause you to doubt your worth and flat-line your self-esteem. The betrayal inflicts deep wounds, causing seemingly unceasing psychological turmoil.

As you work to survive the affair, and maybe you’re even trying to save your marriage, you may now watch your cheating spouse’s every move, looking for any sign that he or she is giving attention to someone else.

While some jealousy may be good, those jealous feelings can also backfire and jeopardize your efforts to save your marriage.

In this blog, let’s look at jealousy, and I’ll give you 3 tips on how to wield it wisely. Please read on…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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Is Your Spouse Pressing Your Buttons?

April 20th, 2015

What is it about your spouse that makes you react in ways that no one else causes you to react? Is your spouse deliberately pushing your buttons, or do you have some reaction triggers you aren’t conscious of?

You may not be sure why you react the way you do when your spouse says or does something—but there is a biological reason.

In this blog, we’ll look at where these reactions are born, and I’ll give you 3 steps for managing them a little better to improve communication between you and your spouse. Read more…

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The Power-Booster that Saves Marriage

April 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage?

Then help your marriage by giving it a powerful boost: building it on a framework of transparency. This means you and your partner commit to being completely open about every aspect of your individual lives—especially if your spouse has cheated.

In this post, I’ll help you rebuild your marriage and strengthen communication between you and your spouse, utilizing the power booster of transparency. Read on…

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Post-Affair Help: Reintroduce This into your Marriage

March 9th, 2015

Prior to the affair, your marriage had probably entered a deep rut. The affair has exploded onto your marriage scene like a bomb, with debris everywhere. You need post-affair help to clean up this mess your spouse has made.

A lot of couples who are working to survive an affair feel that it’s all bad news from that point on: there will be tear, recriminations, blame, resentment, anger.

No one is going to suggest that those elements won’t be present in a post-affair marriage. At first, you have a lot of rock ground to work through. However, at some point—if you decide to rebuild your marriage—you will need to move forward as a couple.

In this post, I’ll offer some ideas to help spring you free from the marital-rut your marriage had fallen into prior to the affair. Read on…

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