Spouse Cheated: Should You Tell Anyone?

September 21st, 2015

After you discover your spouse cheated, you may feel a great deal of shame and embarrassment.

It’s a natural reaction—but it can leave you feeling immobilized and cut off from the rest of the world.

In this blog, I’ll explain why it’s not a good idea to suffer in silence, but also, to be selective about whom you decide to confide in. Please keep reading…

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Confiding in Family Can Doom Marriage Reconciliation

July 20th, 2010

If you’ve discovered your spouse has been involved in an affair, you can probably relate to the desire to confess their sins and wrong-doing to the people you feel are in your corner. But think twice before confiding the lurid details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family.

Pouring out your hurt, anger and disappointment to family and friends may be your first reaction, but in doing so, you could possibly doom any chance for reconciliation with your spouse. In this blog, we’ll explore whether confiding the affair to family and friends could kill your efforts to repair your relationship with your husband or wife—before you’ve even had a chance to work through the emotions you’re feeling and understand what it is you want.

You’re overwhelmed with emotions and want to lash out. You may find yourself bouncing between two extremes: the desire to hole up somewhere and privately nurse your wounds, yet also needing the embrace of the people you trust to love you and want what’s best for you, who will be there in your time of greatest need.

So what could possibly be wrong with reaching out to the other people in your life?

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