3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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Better than Making Love…

August 15th, 2016

The happiest couples rank one thing as being the most satisfying part of their happy union.

This one thing even outranked sex!

In today’s blog, I’ll share with you the results of a survey designed to ferret out the secrets of the world’s happiest couples. Then, I’ll give you 2 tips to maximize this happiness-inducing one thing into your relationship. Read on…

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Has Your Partner Shut You Out?

June 8th, 2016

Your partner may seem distant, unengaged and uninterested in the relationship.

This can lead to you feeling shut out. You may even push for answers, asking “What’s wrong? Why won’t you talk to me? Why aren’t we close anymore?”

Unfortunately, this can sometimes backfire and cause your partner to shut down and shut you out even more.

So what recourse do you have?

In this blog, I’ll tell you what to do when your partner has shut you out, giving you 2 tips for opening the door once again to your partner’s heart. Please keep reading…

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70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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The #1 Way to Unclam Your Partner

March 23rd, 2016

Do you have a partner who clams up on you the second a conversation turns the least bit intense?

I have a friend who has a partner who does this. She has confided this to me: “Sometimes, I’d like to stand on his chest and pry his lips apart to let those thoughts come out, because I know they’re in there!”

I’ve advised her that may be considered assault, so instead she may want to try what Marriage Sherpa’s marriage counselors have found to be the #1 way to unclam a partner.

In this blog, I’ll give you that #1 way, and also explain why some people can’t seem to open up and spill their guts. Please keep reading…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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Are You and Your Spouse a Silent Movie, or an Action Adventure?

February 4th, 2015

When you spend time alone with your spouse, are things so quiet, you could cue the crickets to make some background noise and lessen the discomfort?

If so, you’re not alone. It seems to be a pattern that many marriages fall into.

In this blog, we’ll look at a relationship study that was done on this very topic. Also, I’ll help you reignite the intimate, sharing spark between you and your spouse once again in 3 steps. Read on…

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How to Save Your Marriage Despite Conflicts

August 10th, 2011

You’re trying to rescue your marriage from the brink of divorce, and you seem to be treading water and going under. You and your spouse have vicious fights, and you feel it’s causing even more damage to your already shaky marriage.

Is it time to call in the divorce lawyer and end your marriage?

Hold the phone. In this blog, learn how fighting can actually save your marriage – and tips for getting through those tough, emotionally-laden arguments.

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When Post-Affair Communication Stalls…

July 13th, 2011

Communicating with your spouse may have been an issue prior to your spouse’s affair. Maybe you had arguments that became heated, best described as the “knock down, drag out” variety with no holds barred.

After the shock of finding out your spouse cheated, and the emotional upheaval that has left you reeling – communication may be at a standstill. Either you aren’t communicating at all, or worse: your communication is nothing but arguments and confrontation, where both sides are digging in, entrenched in their need to be “right.” When you argue with your spouse, it may feel as if you’re defending your very life.

Find out what may be causing your communication to stall – now when, more than ever, you need to communicate well in order to rebuild your marriage, and what a leading researcher has found that can turn around the dismal communication between you and your spouse…

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The Hidden Danger in Rebuilding Honesty

June 1st, 2011

Is honesty really the best policy?

It’s a question that many of us may struggle with from time to time. But in a marriage – especially post-affair – honesty is a must-do. Without it, your marriage likely will not survive.

In this blog, we’ll look at honesty and its place in your marriage. But keep reading to discover two surprising dangers associated with adhering to “honesty is the best policy.”

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