The Secret Ingredient of Long-Married Couples

August 24th, 2016

Long-married couples are a little disappointed in younger couples who split up.

It seems to these long-marrieds that couples are missing out on a secret ingredient.

Do you and your partner have it?

In this blog, I’ll give you the secret ingredient after first telling you about a common experience for all long-married couples. Please keep reading…

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Add Sizzle to Your Relationship (Get In Sync)

January 20th, 2016

Sometimes, you and your partner may not be on the same wavelength, and it can contribute to things between you fizzling rather than sizzling.

Picture one of those EKGs… when there’s a problem, it causes the measurements to have drastic spikes and the EKG machine sounds like it’s going to explode. And when the appropriate rhythm is found, the machine hums along.

That’s how it is for your relationship.

It’s very easy to add some sizzle to your relationship, simply by working to get in sync with your partner. In this blog, I’ll explain what happens when you’re not in sync, and then give you 3 conversation starters to help take your relationship from fizzle to sizzle. Read on…

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Go Ahead… Go to Bed Angry.

May 13th, 2015

If you and your spouse get into an argument, you may feel pressured to resolve your disagreement before bedtime.

After all, isn’t there a wise old saying about “never going to bed angry”?

You might want to heed the marriage experts’ advice, though: if you and your spouse are fighting, go ahead and go to bed mad. In this blog, I’ll explain why. Read on…

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Time Out: Not Just For Kids

October 7th, 2011

We just looked at eliminating rampant anger in a blog a couple of days ago. But let’s not kid ourselves: even if you don’t have rampant anger, there will still be conflict. It doesn’t have to boil over into a full-fledged argument or heated battle, though, if you manage the conflict appropriately.

There is a technique I want to share with you that may very well save your marriage because it will help you get a grip on that runaway anger. Please continue reading…

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Conflict: The Key to Saving Your Marriage

September 19th, 2011

If you’re avoiding conflict with your spouse in an attempt to save your marriage – STOP.

The arguing isn’t the issue, and avoiding going head to head may be doing more harm than good.

In today’s blog, I’ll share with you how conflict holds the secret to saving your marriage. Read on…

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Will Accepting Spouse’s Viewpoint Annihilate You?

August 24th, 2011

It’s said that the two biggest issues that lead to a marriage breaking up and ending in divorce are money and communication. Finances are a whole different issue – they’re part of the business side of your marriage.

How about the intimate side of your marriage? This is where communication comes in, and where many couples hit the proverbial wall. And if one of you has committed infidelity, this can further unhinge already poor communication.

When you talk to your spouse, what’s going on behind the words, the anger, and the barriers of your heart? In this blog, we’ll explore what may be happening when you talk with your spouse that may be further driving a wedge between you – and risking your marriage ending in divorce. Let’s go…

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The One Ingredient Vital to Building—and Saving—Your Marriage

December 21st, 2010

Somewhere along its path, your marriage hit the skids, and may have been additionally rocked by an affair. If your marriage is in crisis, you know how your once-happy “union” can begin to feel like unpaid, overtime work.

There isn’t a way to not do the work when it comes to saving your marriage. But take heart: it doesn’t have to be all drudgery.

In this post, I’ll help you evaluate whether you’re taking advantage of one tactic for saving—and building—your marriage. Also, a plan to make sure you incorporate one crucial piece.

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Manage the Universal Relationship Problem—Before It Destroys Your Marriage

December 14th, 2010

In all likelihood, you and your spouse aren’t immune from the inevitable conflicts that arise in a marriage.

Anytime two people are brought together, there is bound to be conflict. There are always going to be things that you don’t agree on, whether the relationship is a marriage or a professional one.

In a marriage, conflicts that are mishandled can tear apart your marital bond, and derail your efforts toward achieving marital harmony. Add in the tumultuous effects of an affair, and you have a recipe for a powder keg to detonate when you experience conflicting views.

In this post, we’ll take a look at how you can resolve conflict with your husband or wife in a meaningful way—especially if you’re working to save your marriage after an affair.

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Marriage Compromise: Do You and Your Spouse Do It?

August 3rd, 2010

You and your spouse could have a disagreement that begins like this:

One of you has just received a bonus check from work. Your spouse thinks it should be spent on a nice vacation. You say it should be placed into savings in case the hot water heater goes.

You both offer good reasons to support your stance. He says, “We work hard, and deserve some time away as a reward.” You say, “Sure we do, but I also don’t want to take cold showers when the water heater finally goes!”

Both of you have a strong opinion, neither of you will give an inch, and every encounter you have becomes an opportunity to further advance why you’re “right.” Each of you digs in your heels. What starts out as a simple argument escalates into a full-blown battle. The unity of your relationship is jeopardized as you both become more entrenched on your own “side.” Heated arguments and steamy silences ensue, and a divide develops between you.

You’re at a standstill and neither of you wants to give up your position. What then?

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