How to Deal with Infidelity and the Other Woman

August 3rd, 2011

A spouse’s affair can make you lose your identity. It can be such a shock to the system, you really don’t know what’s what anymore: who are you? Who is your spouse? Who is this paramour of your spouse?

Many affair victims become consumed with curiosity about their spouse’s lover. It can become an obsession, and if you’re the victim, you may find yourself feeling competitive against this person.

Let’s look at some warning signs that you’re competing against the paramour – and how it may be pushing your spouse away from rather than toward you.

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3 Red Flags Your Marriage-Saving Effort is Failing

July 27th, 2011

Either you or your spouse has had an affair, and it has devastated your marriage. Now, the mistake of the affair has been acknowledged, and you both wish to salvage what’s left of your relationship.

It’s not an easy fix. Many days you’ll feel as if it’s two steps back for every one step forward.

How do you gauge whether your rebuilding efforts are on track, or whether your efforts are doomed to failure? I’ll give you three red flags to be on the alert for which could signal the derailment of you and your spouse’s best efforts to save your marriage. To learn what those red flags are – and how to sidestep them – read more…

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