Cheating Spouses Needs Not Met: Valid Cheating Excuse?

October 7th, 2015

Finding out your spouse cheated, probably one of your first questions was, “Why?”

Cheaters may have a specific reason they give as a justification, but more than likely, they are not in touch with what prompted them to commit such a stupid act. Unfortunately, the victim of the affair can’t rest until the question is answered to some level of satisfaction.

When it comes to cheating, there is no “good” reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But cheaters tend to always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at two needs found within a marriage, and I’ll give two conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Can a Marriage Survive an Affair?

December 12th, 2011

It’s the age-old infidelity question: can a marriage survive an affair?

The short answer is, yes. A marriage can survive as long as both partners are involved in the process of deep soul-searching and recommitment to the relationship. To rebuild a marriage requires an assessment of needs.

In this blog, I’ll reveal three of the 10 critical dimensions of a relationship to help you in your assessment, and why neglecting needs is poisonous. Read on…

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Coping with Infidelity and the Neglect Justification

March 24th, 2011

Cheaters can’t always say why they stepped outside of their marriage and had an affair. They’re probably not very sure themselves of the “reason” why.

When it comes to cheating, there is no clear reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But victims of affairs always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at just 2 needs found within a marriage, and I’ll provide you with conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage.

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