How Much Should You Tell About Relationship Problems?

May 2nd, 2016

When we’re hurting or struggling in our relationship with our partner, there’s a natural inclination to want to talk to others about that pain.

Talking with friends and family is a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain… they are, after all, your support network. But where should the line be when it comes to discussing the more intimate details of your relationship problems?

You may want to think it through before you decide to confide in your support network.

In this blog, we’ll look at the pluses and the minuses of confiding in others, and 2 tips for securing the type of support that works best for you. Read on…

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Do You Have What it Takes to Survive the Affair?

October 26th, 2015

Surviving the affair of your spouse is one of the most difficult, challenging things you’ll ever work to accomplish. Are you up to the task?
Cheating causes a depth of painful emotions that is almost impossible to describe—you only realize how deep if you experience it yourself.

Even cheater can go through emotional turmoil thanks to their thoughtless actions.

In this blog, I will provide you with 3 different options for managing those post-affair emotions in a healthy way. It will give you what you need to move forward, survive infidelity and decide if you want to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Cheated On, Spirit Broken (Some Remedies)

July 20th, 2015

Your spouse cheated on you, and you feel sick… sick down to your soul. How can you move past this point of pain and despair, and feel happy again?

Having your spouse break your trust is one of the cruelest things that could happen to a person. It costs the victim so much.

In this blog, let’s examine the inequality that exists in the post-affair marriage—and how to recover more quickly, if you are the affair victim. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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Spouse Cheated: Now, What’s Best for You?

March 18th, 2015

Your spouse’s infidelity has provided you with something you didn’t expect: a chance to stop, take stock of your life, define what your needs are, discover who you are—and whether or not it’s who you want to be.

As a married person, life is usually too hectic, on a cycle of day-in, day-out, and you don’t think about your life and whether you or on track for what you want. An affair is a jolt to your world, forcing you to look at things with fresh eyes.

In this post, I’ll share with you the 3 steps you should take before you can take optimum advantage of this opportunity for self-discovery. Read on…

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How to Deal with Infidelity and the Other Woman

August 3rd, 2011

A spouse’s affair can make you lose your identity. It can be such a shock to the system, you really don’t know what’s what anymore: who are you? Who is your spouse? Who is this paramour of your spouse?

Many affair victims become consumed with curiosity about their spouse’s lover. It can become an obsession, and if you’re the victim, you may find yourself feeling competitive against this person.

Let’s look at some warning signs that you’re competing against the paramour – and how it may be pushing your spouse away from rather than toward you.

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3 Red Flags Your Marriage-Saving Effort is Failing

July 27th, 2011

Either you or your spouse has had an affair, and it has devastated your marriage. Now, the mistake of the affair has been acknowledged, and you both wish to salvage what’s left of your relationship.

It’s not an easy fix. Many days you’ll feel as if it’s two steps back for every one step forward.

How do you gauge whether your rebuilding efforts are on track, or whether your efforts are doomed to failure? I’ll give you three red flags to be on the alert for which could signal the derailment of you and your spouse’s best efforts to save your marriage. To learn what those red flags are – and how to sidestep them – read more…

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Why Men Cheat: Are Wives Too Needy?

July 20th, 2011

After your spouse’s affair was revealed, you may have found yourself full of self-doubts. In fact, your spouse may have expressed that he or she thinks you’re being “too needy.”

If so, it probably made you feel even sicker inside than you already do, and planted a seed of self-doubt: Am I too needy? And if so, where has my power gone?

In this blog, we’ll explore what being ‘needy’ is and what it stems from. Read on to see if you’re currently suffering from neediness syndrome…

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When Post-Affair Communication Stalls…

July 13th, 2011

Communicating with your spouse may have been an issue prior to your spouse’s affair. Maybe you had arguments that became heated, best described as the “knock down, drag out” variety with no holds barred.

After the shock of finding out your spouse cheated, and the emotional upheaval that has left you reeling – communication may be at a standstill. Either you aren’t communicating at all, or worse: your communication is nothing but arguments and confrontation, where both sides are digging in, entrenched in their need to be “right.” When you argue with your spouse, it may feel as if you’re defending your very life.

Find out what may be causing your communication to stall – now when, more than ever, you need to communicate well in order to rebuild your marriage, and what a leading researcher has found that can turn around the dismal communication between you and your spouse…

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Evaluating the Idea of Forgiveness in Your Marriage

July 6th, 2011

Whether your spouse has said they’re sorry and asked for your forgiveness or not, you may still struggle with the idea of forgiving their heinous, cheating actions.

It’s a thorny question: should you forgive your cheating spouse, or should you not offer them the absolution of your forgiveness? And if they haven’t asked for forgiveness, what does it mean for you?

Read on to determine the answer that fits your situation.

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