3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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How Much Should You Tell About Relationship Problems?

May 2nd, 2016

When we’re hurting or struggling in our relationship with our partner, there’s a natural inclination to want to talk to others about that pain.

Talking with friends and family is a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain… they are, after all, your support network. But where should the line be when it comes to discussing the more intimate details of your relationship problems?

You may want to think it through before you decide to confide in your support network.

In this blog, we’ll look at the pluses and the minuses of confiding in others, and 2 tips for securing the type of support that works best for you. Read on…

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Is Your Spouse Pressing Your Buttons?

April 20th, 2015

What is it about your spouse that makes you react in ways that no one else causes you to react? Is your spouse deliberately pushing your buttons, or do you have some reaction triggers you aren’t conscious of?

You may not be sure why you react the way you do when your spouse says or does something—but there is a biological reason.

In this blog, we’ll look at where these reactions are born, and I’ll give you 3 steps for managing them a little better to improve communication between you and your spouse. Read more…

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Shake Emotional-Reaction Regret Within Marriage

November 3rd, 2011

Your spouse says or does something, and you react. Later, you find yourself berating yourself: “Why did you react like that? Why did you say that? Why did you do that?”

You wonder why you react the way you do, and why it is you can’t seem to control any of those reactions.

In today’s blog, we’ll look at how your emotional reactions came about, and 3 steps for managing the ones that leave you with regret.

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The ‘How to Save My Marriage’ Question: A Brain Tease

September 22nd, 2011

Your 3 pounds of brain matter has a huge hold on how you’re conducting your relationship today. If you’ve asked yourself the classic marriage-crisis question, “how to save my marriage,” without fully understanding why you react to your spouse the way you do – you’re spinning in circles.

In this blog, my plan is to help you stop spinning, start making strides forward, and enable you to answer for yourself that ‘how to save my marriage’ question. Keep reading…

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Jealous of Spouse? Managing Your Internal Comfort Boundary

September 7th, 2011

Maybe you were at a party and your spouse was just a little too friendly with the females. Or your wife wears clothes that you feel are a little bit too revealing for those work meetings.

And maybe you’ve reacted. Badly. In the heat of the moment, your imagination running wild, you accused your spouse of being a cheater, or looking for someone to cheat with.

Jealousy, the so-called “green-eyed monster,” can be a destructive force in a marriage. Here’s what to do to ensure it doesn’t drive a further wedge between you and your spouse and undo the very foundation of your marriage. Keep reading for four steps to take…

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