Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

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Post-Affair Minefields (Avoid This at All Costs)

November 9th, 2015

If you are working to salvage your relationship after your partner’s affair, there are certain things to avoid doing that can throw off your efforts.

When a partner cheats, it takes a lot more to save the relationship than just deciding to patch things up and move forward.

The victim of the affair has a lot to cope with, and there is one potential post-affair minefield that should be avoided at all costs. Today, let’s look at what that is, and why it is so damaging to let into your newly-recreated relationship. Please keep reading…

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Do You Have What it Takes to Survive the Affair?

October 26th, 2015

Surviving the affair of your spouse is one of the most difficult, challenging things you’ll ever work to accomplish. Are you up to the task?
Cheating causes a depth of painful emotions that is almost impossible to describe—you only realize how deep if you experience it yourself.

Even cheater can go through emotional turmoil thanks to their thoughtless actions.

In this blog, I will provide you with 3 different options for managing those post-affair emotions in a healthy way. It will give you what you need to move forward, survive infidelity and decide if you want to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Dealing with Affairs and Forgiveness

January 16th, 2012

Where does forgiveness come from for people dealing with affairs? Is it the rational part of your brain, or is it the emotional part? Or do the two have to join forces?

If your spouse cheated and you’re in the aftermath of dealing with the affair, forgiveness may be the very last thing on your mind. But it’s a question that often comes up for the victim of the
affair, and one that has no easy answer.

In this blog, let’s look at forgiveness and the role of your brain in whether or not you are able to forgive. Read on…

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Quiet the Affair Aftershocks (3 Recommendations)

October 17th, 2011

Overcoming infidelity means the affair victim must hurdle a cluster of emotional torments: namely, negative thoughts and images.

Anyone who is the victim of an affair knows that’s no small hurdle.

In this blog, you’ll learn a negative thought/image control plan. Keep reading…

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Cheating Men: End the Lies

September 23rd, 2011

Cheating men (and women) have one thing in common: they’ve lied to their spouse, if not in word, then most definitely in deed – and their spouse wants to know how to end the lies.

If you have been lied to by your partner, you probably feel devastated. You may be struggling with emotions such as overwhelming anger, sadness, grief and depression, your head whirling with negative thoughts and images.

It’s not uncommon for affair victims to ask how to end the lies that have overtaken their marriage. In this blog, we’ll look at three tips. Read on…

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Are You Emotionally Literate?

May 25th, 2011

After you found out your spouse cheated on you, any doubts that have ever been in the background of your mind about your decision to marry your spouse come roaring to the forefront.

If you had doubts before, the affair has cemented them in your mind. You think, “I never did really understand my spouse, and my spouse certainly doesn’t seem to get me. Maybe we shouldn’t have married…”

And yet, you more than likely want to save your marriage. So refrain from regretting the past and look toward building your future. It’s possible to survive an affair and build a strong relationship—using a method I’ll share with you so you can better communicate the emotions you are feeling. Read on…

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Surviving Infidelity and the Emotional Pain

April 14th, 2011

Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.

But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.

It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.

In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.

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Adultery: Trusting Your Spouse After the Affair

March 17th, 2011

So you may not be able to say at this moment, “I 100% trust my spouse.” But if you were to discover that you could trust your spouse 25%, 50%–or even 75%, how would that make you feel about the chances of success for saving your marriage?

The shockwave of an affair is widespread: your feelings are crushed, your heart aches, and your marriage foundation has crumbled into pieces.

But what many victims of an affair find most devastating is having their trust in their spouse and in their marriage vows destroyed. Nothing annihilates trust like a spouse’s affair. You know that without trust, efforts to save your marriage are doomed.

In this blog, we’re going to look at 3 forms of trust in a relationship, and how to rate how much trust you really have in your spouse.

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How to Survive an Affair and Conquer Roadblocks to Healing

February 7th, 2011

The inner struggle a victim of an affair goes through is indescribable—unless you’ve been there yourself. Eventually, time is the true healer.

But many victims of their spouse’s affairs wonder if there is a way to make the process go faster, or exactly how they can move on from this point of pain—or even if what they’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, I’ll share with you two of the monstrous emotions that need to be faced and handled as soon as you recognize them. And, I’ll give you some strategies to cope with them so they don’t block your ability to heal.

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