2 Ways to Manage the Emotional Cauldron of Anger

May 30th, 2016

Relationships in which a couple struggles to express their feelings as they’re happening and work together to resolve them can create a lot of anger.

Anger that isn’t checked can derail a relationship. It pushes people apart and leads to more licking of wounds than repairing the rift.

Most people who have a lot of anger in their relationship would love to find a way to end the anger and feel good about being with their partner again. Unfortunately, anger can become a very bad habit that’s difficult to escape.

In this blog, I’ll tell you about what anger represents, and offer you 2 ways to manage the anger in your relationship. Please keep reading…

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The #1 Way to Unclam Your Partner

March 23rd, 2016

Do you have a partner who clams up on you the second a conversation turns the least bit intense?

I have a friend who has a partner who does this. She has confided this to me: “Sometimes, I’d like to stand on his chest and pry his lips apart to let those thoughts come out, because I know they’re in there!”

I’ve advised her that may be considered assault, so instead she may want to try what Marriage Sherpa’s marriage counselors have found to be the #1 way to unclam a partner.

In this blog, I’ll give you that #1 way, and also explain why some people can’t seem to open up and spill their guts. Please keep reading…

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3 Things a Guy Should Never Say

March 9th, 2016

From the number of women who have fumed and not talked to their man for a day or more, it would seem a lot of guys didn’t get the memo on things they should never say. EVER.

Yet, time after time, it seems guys unwittingly step in it… they say something to their partner that has her seeing 50 shades of red.

The worst part? Most guys don’t even realize what they’ve done… or why their woman has reacted the way that she has.

In this blog, I’ll tell you 3 things that a guy should never say if he wants to keep his woman happy. Please keep reading…

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Barriers to Post-Affair Healing

August 26th, 2015

As the victim of an affair, you may not be sure how to survive an affair, let alone overcome the barriers to healing you’ll encounter along the way. It is said that time is the true healer, but you are swimming in a sea of pain until sufficient time passes.

As the victim of your spouse’s affair, you may wonder if there is a way to make the process of healing go faster, or the formula for moving from this point of pain—or even if what you’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, you’ll learn how to survive an affair by facing down two monstrous emotions and strategies to cope with these post-affair healing barriers. Please read more…

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Is Your Spouse Pressing Your Buttons?

April 20th, 2015

What is it about your spouse that makes you react in ways that no one else causes you to react? Is your spouse deliberately pushing your buttons, or do you have some reaction triggers you aren’t conscious of?

You may not be sure why you react the way you do when your spouse says or does something—but there is a biological reason.

In this blog, we’ll look at where these reactions are born, and I’ll give you 3 steps for managing them a little better to improve communication between you and your spouse. Read more…

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Are You Too Quick to Get Upset?

February 9th, 2015

Has your spouse ever accused you of getting “upset too easily,” or called you “touchy?”

If so, you may have a good excuse for getting upset more quickly than your spouse.

In this blog, we’ll explore why some get upset more quickly, and how to make two different reaction styles work in your marriage. Please keep reading…

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Better Understand Your Spouse

March 2nd, 2012

A couple may share their home, their lives, and their love, and yet experience their worlds in different ways that leads them to simply not understand one another.

It is important to understand these differences to foster a healthy marriage. If you feel you don’t understand how your spouse thinks, it may be a matter of perspective: you see through your lens onto the world, while your spouse sees the world through their own unique lens.

Is your way better? In this blog, we’ll explore how to understand your spouse so you can deepen your emotional connection with him or her, using 3 guidelines to get you started. Please keep reading…

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Dealing with Affairs and Forgiveness

January 16th, 2012

Where does forgiveness come from for people dealing with affairs? Is it the rational part of your brain, or is it the emotional part? Or do the two have to join forces?

If your spouse cheated and you’re in the aftermath of dealing with the affair, forgiveness may be the very last thing on your mind. But it’s a question that often comes up for the victim of the
affair, and one that has no easy answer.

In this blog, let’s look at forgiveness and the role of your brain in whether or not you are able to forgive. Read on…

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Marriage Problems: Emotional Tug-of-War

January 12th, 2012

Many marriage problems are the result of dual entrenchment: you dig in on your side, your spouse digs in on their side—and you can’t seem to meet in the middle.

Or maybe your marriage problems are centered on neglect. You both hold on to small grudges about arguments and issues that you don’t feel you can “win,” so then when you do try to share something, maybe your spouse ignores you. Then, next time your spouse tries to share something, and you brush him or her off.

In this blog, I’ll give you three tips for ending this emotional tug-of-war and resolve this common marriage problem, allowing you to reconnect with your spouse. Read on…

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How to Stop a Divorce Until You’re Really Sure

December 23rd, 2011

Are you worried that you’ve tried everything, and still your marriage is on the verge of divorce, and you don’t know how to stop a divorce from happening?

Many people have tried their best to put their marriages back together again, and desperately need insight about whether or not it’s time to end the marriage, get a divorce, and move on.

In this blog, we’ll explore the issue of divorce, and three steps to take to stop divorce decisions from happening until you’re truly ready to decide. Keep reading…

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