After an affair, when your marriage has been through a meltdown, you may wonder how to pick up, move forward—and feel love for your spouse once again.
Maybe you’ve done the work necessary to save and rebuild your marriage: worked through negative thoughts and images, and gotten off the emotional rollercoaster to something resembling solid ground. Many couples want to know: how do I fall in love with my spouse again?
In this blog, I’ll give you three key ingredients that need to be in place in order to be successful at finding love once more with your spouse.
In the midst of marital turmoil, maybe you’ve had this inner dialogue:
Dealing with my spouse and all of these problems in our marriage is too much for me. Maybe I should just get a divorce, and find someone new to start a life with.
The idea of “someone new” is a tantalizing one. How easy it seems to just shed the thorny problems of your marriage and move on to a fresh start in a problem-free relationship with someone else. Of course, most relationships are relatively problem-free in those early, in-love feeling stages. In this article, we’ll explore ways to get past this fantasy—and back to focusing on healing your marriage.
This is the second in the series of blogs regarding falling in love. I hope you found the first posting helpful.
Now on to this next blog.
Do you love your spouse?
I don’t mean in some abstract, “I love all people” kind of way. And I’m not asking if you love your spouse like a brother or some other member of your family.
I mean: Do you love your spouse?
Do you feel the passion you had when you first met each other? Do you share a deep connection that runs through your relationship like a powerful current? Is your marriage charged with the electricity of love?