Will Your Marriage Ever be the Same Again?
“I just wish it could go back to the way it used to be. We were so happy before he cheated. I loved our marriage. And despite what he says, I think he did too. We had so much fun together. I wonder if we’ll ever feel that way again .
Do you think our marriage will ever be the same? Can’t we just go back to how it was before the affair?”
I can’t begin to tell you how many people have asked me questions like these over the years. I would say it’s one of the most common questions I get in my practice.
And, frankly, when I hear this question it always reminds me of the problem thinking that often leads to divorce.
It’s hard to believe… after all you’ve been through together… You did so well together for so long. You’ve been married for years, maybe decades. You may have raised kids who are now grown and out of the house. You’ve most likely suffered through financial difficulties, family crises, and personal catastrophes.
And now you’re wondering if it’s all over. Has the marriage you have worked for and cherished for so long finally run its course? Is this really the end?
Coping with an affair (or other traumatic event in your marriage) is one of the most difficult emotional experiences a human being can have. It’s complicated by the fact that there are only two people who can really decide whether or not the marriage is over: you and your spouse. No one else can make this decision for you. In this article I want to explore why that’s true and give you some insight on ways to consider staying in or leaving your marriage.