The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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Help Cheating Spouse See: Paramour Isn’t All That

September 7th, 2015

Your spouse cheated on you with someone that they thought could fill some sort of hole they felt inside.

What does the paramour have that you don’t?

In this blog, we’ll look at the “allure” of a paramour—and, if you wish to save your marriage, 3 tips for helping your cheating spouse see the light. Please keep reading…

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Does Your Marriage Have The Code in Place?

August 12th, 2015

Do you want to save your marriage, but don’t know how to trust your spouse again?

You realize that if you don’t find a way to trust your spouse, it will mean the end of your marriage. You’re stuck: you don’t trust your spouse, and your spouse doesn’t know how to make you believe in them again, and you keep waiting to really know that your spouse is being honest with you.

That’s where your attempts to save your marriage may be struggling most: what you’re focusing on. Read on to learn the basic guidelines for rebuilding trust…

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The #1 Adultery Squasher

December 7th, 2011

What is the best way to prevent adultery from happening?

Make the ground for adultery infertile so it doesn’t have a chance to take root and grow. It’s much easier in the long run to prevent adultery from happening in the first place than it is to try save your marriage after the fact.

In this blog, I will give you three steps for preventing adultery, based on the number one adultery squasher. Keep reading…

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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When Post-Affair Communication Stalls…

July 13th, 2011

Communicating with your spouse may have been an issue prior to your spouse’s affair. Maybe you had arguments that became heated, best described as the “knock down, drag out” variety with no holds barred.

After the shock of finding out your spouse cheated, and the emotional upheaval that has left you reeling – communication may be at a standstill. Either you aren’t communicating at all, or worse: your communication is nothing but arguments and confrontation, where both sides are digging in, entrenched in their need to be “right.” When you argue with your spouse, it may feel as if you’re defending your very life.

Find out what may be causing your communication to stall – now when, more than ever, you need to communicate well in order to rebuild your marriage, and what a leading researcher has found that can turn around the dismal communication between you and your spouse…

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The #1 Reason to NOT Bottle Up Your Pain

April 28th, 2011

Did you know that not expressing your pain to your spouse could increase your risk for serious diseases, such as heart disease and cancer?

As a victim of cheating, what has been unleashed on you is a world of hurt. And one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have is finding the words to tell your spouse how terribly hurt you are by their affair. The affair has devastated you—emotionally, psychologically – and even physically. You may feel a tremendous amount of stress and pressure.

You need to communicate these feelings and emotions to your spouse—for the sake of your marriage—and for your personal health. In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for making this conversation happen.

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