Who Does a Grudge Really Hurt?

July 4th, 2016

Has your partner ever done something that hurt you, and had you really upset?

If so, how have you handled your feelings related to what your partner did?

There’s an effective way to handle the hurt feelings, and there’s an ineffective way that involves holding a grudge.

In today’s blog, I want to talk to you about grudges and who they really hurt… and then give you some effective methods for getting over the hurt and moving forward using 3 tips. Please keep reading…

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The Link Between Anger and Forgiveness

June 15th, 2016

Forgiveness is a challenge, and there is one obstacle in particular that could be preventing you from extending forgiveness to a partner who has wronged you.

That one obstacle is anger. Where anger lurks, forgiveness isn’t likely to occupy the same space.

For the victim, there is a process you must move through to get past the obstacle and into a place where you can either offer forgiveness or not—and be at peace with both your decision and where you are.

In this blog, I’ll tell you more about the process, as well as offer you 2 tips to move forward past the anger and into a space where you can decide if forgiveness is something you even want to offer. Read on…

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Two Types of Anger that Creep into Relationships

May 11th, 2016

There are two types of anger, and they can become detrimental to you if they linger.

Maybe your partner cheated, or blew every cent in your joint savings account, or invites family to stay over for weeks on end, expecting you to look after the guests…

No doubt you have a right to your anger if you are being put into less than favorable situations. But it’s up to you whether you want to exercise your right to anger, and for how long.

In this blog, I’ll tell you the two types of anger, and tips to effectively manage anger. Please keep reading…

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How Much Should You Tell About Relationship Problems?

May 2nd, 2016

When we’re hurting or struggling in our relationship with our partner, there’s a natural inclination to want to talk to others about that pain.

Talking with friends and family is a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain… they are, after all, your support network. But where should the line be when it comes to discussing the more intimate details of your relationship problems?

You may want to think it through before you decide to confide in your support network.

In this blog, we’ll look at the pluses and the minuses of confiding in others, and 2 tips for securing the type of support that works best for you. Read on…

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Forgiveness, with a Side of Grudge

February 16th, 2015

Have you told your cheating spouse you forgive him/her, only… you still harbor a colossal-sized grudge?

It’s not unusual for an affair victim to try to rush the healing process, only to move even further apart from their spouse rather than toward reconciliation.

In this blog, we’ll look at forgiveness and grudges—and whether you may have jumped to forgive too soon. Also, I’ll give you 3 tips to gauge whether or not you’re ready to forgive. Read on…

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Post-Affair: Choose Your Confidantes Wisely

February 11th, 2015

Your spouse cheated, and you are overwhelmed with negative thoughts and feelings. You may feel that if you don’t confide in someone, you may explode from the internal pressure and strife.

Before you share your spouse’s wrong-doing with other people, think twice.

In this blog, I’ll go over the danger of confiding the details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family, and how it could hurt your chances for saving your marriage. Read more…

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Forgiving Infidelity: Possible?

January 27th, 2012

Forgiving infidelity is one of the top concerns that victims of cheaters wrestle with. The universal question seems to be: exactly how am I supposed to go about “forgiving and forgetting?”

There are also other ways beyond cheating that a spouse can break your faith: gamble away your money, take up drugs or excessive drinking, skimming some money off the top at work. But infidelity has an especially devastating impact on your emotional connection with your spouse.

If this describes the current state of your marriage, you are facing one of the most difficult challenges any married person has to cope with. In today’s blog, we’ll look at forgiving infidelity in particular. Read on…

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Coping with an Affair and Anger (3 Reco’s)

January 19th, 2012

In coping with an affair, the affair victim can go through intense periods of anger.

Does this describe you?

At times, you may feel pure rage welling up inside of you. It’s a frightening, sickening feeling—but it’s a natural response to being betrayed. You have a right to be angry.

In this blog, we’ll look at how coping with an affair and anger may be natural, but how to begin to release the anger. I’ll give you 3 recommendations today. Keep reading…

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Are You Emotionally Literate?

May 25th, 2011

After you found out your spouse cheated on you, any doubts that have ever been in the background of your mind about your decision to marry your spouse come roaring to the forefront.

If you had doubts before, the affair has cemented them in your mind. You think, “I never did really understand my spouse, and my spouse certainly doesn’t seem to get me. Maybe we shouldn’t have married…”

And yet, you more than likely want to save your marriage. So refrain from regretting the past and look toward building your future. It’s possible to survive an affair and build a strong relationship—using a method I’ll share with you so you can better communicate the emotions you are feeling. Read on…

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Break the Negative Thought/Negative Emotion Connection

May 5th, 2011

They’re insidious, all-consuming and nasty. What are they? The storm of negative thoughts that has moved into your head and taken control. And if you don’t get a handle on them, you may begin to think you’re going crazy.

Not only do you feel angry and betrayed, but you also feel you’ve lost control of your most private sanctuary: your own mind.

You deserve to have back that inner sanctuary. In today’s blog, we’ll look at the connection between negative emotions and negative thoughts. And, I’ll give you two steps for calming the negative thought storm that is destroying your peace and sense of sanity. Read on.

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