Cheating Spouses Needs Not Met: Valid Cheating Excuse?

October 7th, 2015

Finding out your spouse cheated, probably one of your first questions was, “Why?”

Cheaters may have a specific reason they give as a justification, but more than likely, they are not in touch with what prompted them to commit such a stupid act. Unfortunately, the victim of the affair can’t rest until the question is answered to some level of satisfaction.

When it comes to cheating, there is no “good” reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But cheaters tend to always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at two needs found within a marriage, and I’ll give two conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Science Supports Shocking Idea that “Revenge is Sweet”

October 5th, 2015

What affair victim hasn’t fantasized about a way to get revenge on their cheating spouse?

But there is an ocean of distance between fantasy and the actual reality of carrying out a revenge plot.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 tips for resisting the urge for revenge as well as how to exorcise those infidelity demons that haunt you. Read on…

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How to Break Post-Affair Negative Thought Pattern

September 16th, 2015

Have you been deeply injured by your spouse’s affair? You may be wondering how to get over the affair faster so you can stop feeling as if you’re losing your mind.

Right now, your mind may very well be unmoored—but it’s not permanent. What you’ve really lost is the ability to manage your own thoughts.

In this blog, I’ll share with you how to get over an affair using some methods for getting your thoughts back under your control once again, putting an end to those negative thoughts that continue to haunt you. Read on…

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Study Blasts “Natural Promiscuity” Cheating Excuse

July 27th, 2015

Male cheaters in particular, take note. One study has ripped the rug out from under a favorite, last-defense excuse: “That’s how men are wired.”

The sooner a cheater—either male or female—accepts full personal responsibility for their actions, the sooner they can get to the business of making amends and rebuilding their marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at this study, the real reason a cheater cheats, and what a cheater needs to do to make amends. Please keep reading…

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Flirting: Good or Bad for a Marriage?

June 22nd, 2015

What’s a little innocent flirting?

Many married people think that a little harmless flirting with people outside of the marriage can actually be good for the marriage.

However, a little ‘innocent’ flirting has a lot that recommends against it.

In this blog, I’ll explain why, and give you tips on infusing a little passion into your own relationship. Read on…

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Cheaters Justify their Behavior

June 17th, 2015

Cheaters tend to tell themselves a story about their behavior. They justify their actions, and make you feel as if you’re crazy.

For a lot of people, they simply aren’t sure where the lines of cheating are. They have gotten their ideas from movies, songs, second-hand stories… but most people don’t sit down and figure out what the true depth of cheating is.

Also, your spouse may have a small view of what makes cheating actual “cheating” because they don’t want to admit that their actions could be defined as such.

In this blog, I’ll give you the definition of cheating, so you and your spouse will not have any miscommunication about exactly where the lines are—and why their behavior is destroying your marriage. Please read more…

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Want to Save Your Marriage? Take the Lead.

June 15th, 2015

Your marriage is in crisis, either from an affair, neglect—or a relationship-deadly combination of both.

You may be waiting for your spouse to make a move: let him or her make amends, fix the problems in your marriage, turn things around.

Don’t hold your breath.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why, and give you 3 tips to save your marriage, before you slide into divorce court wondering “what happened?” Please keep reading…

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Once A Cheater, Always…?

June 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage, but one question keeps playing in your head: “once a cheater, always a cheater?”

While many believe that a cheater can never change, we as humans have an enormous capacity to make positive changes. Does this mean your spouse definitively won’t cheat again?

In this blog, I’ll give you three indications of a right and narrow path on the part of your spouse that you can look for so to determine what your spouse may do in the future. Read on…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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How Should You Handle Affair Details?

April 8th, 2015

After your spouse’s affair struck a mortal blow to the very heart of your marriage, you know you need a tremendous amount of “life support” to save your marriage.

Your marriage has no chance of surviving the infidelity until you satisfactorily resolve how you will handle the details of the affair.

You and your spouse, with committed effort, can survive an affair. But you need to decide how to discuss these painful details—or even if you should, and how to handle them if you do.

In this post, I’ll provide you with 3 steps that will help you make this far-reaching decision. Keep reading…

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