Spouse Cheated: Now, What’s Best for You?

March 18th, 2015

Your spouse’s infidelity has provided you with something you didn’t expect: a chance to stop, take stock of your life, define what your needs are, discover who you are—and whether or not it’s who you want to be.

As a married person, life is usually too hectic, on a cycle of day-in, day-out, and you don’t think about your life and whether you or on track for what you want. An affair is a jolt to your world, forcing you to look at things with fresh eyes.

In this post, I’ll share with you the 3 steps you should take before you can take optimum advantage of this opportunity for self-discovery. Read on…

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Post-Affair: Choose Your Confidantes Wisely

February 11th, 2015

Your spouse cheated, and you are overwhelmed with negative thoughts and feelings. You may feel that if you don’t confide in someone, you may explode from the internal pressure and strife.

Before you share your spouse’s wrong-doing with other people, think twice.

In this blog, I’ll go over the danger of confiding the details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family, and how it could hurt your chances for saving your marriage. Read more…

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Where’s the Cheater’s Remorse?

April 4th, 2012

Your cheating spouse may not be behaving as if they feel remorseful about committing infidelity. Either through action or inaction, your spouse may not be giving you any cues that he or she is sorry for their actions.

This may anger and frustrate you, and lead to you experiencing even more pain. When you observe your cheating spouse going about daily business like nothing has happened, it’s easy to feel as if your spouse isn’t capable of guilt.

In this blog, I am going to help you understand the 3 roadblocks a cheating spouse may be facing and why he or she is showing a lack of remorse. Read on…

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What to Do When You Suspect Infidelity

March 29th, 2012

Do you suspect your spouse is cheating on you?

Many spouses report having had a “feeling” that their significant other had begun to stray outside of the marriage. It’s a devastating feeling, to suspect infidelity but not know what to do about it.

In this blog, I want to give you tips on what you can do if you suspect infidelity, so you can take steps to repair your marriage while you prepare for the emotional pain you will feel. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Why Do You Need the “I’m Sorry?”

March 23rd, 2012

Has your spouse said a simple “I’m sorry” for cheating on you? Asked you for forgiveness? Done anything to regain your favor?

You’ve probably heard your spouse apologize before, maybe for accidentally knocking into you and sloshing the coffee you were holding, or taking the last bit of coffee.

How can you consider forgiving your spouse for having an affair, when all he or she seems to do is ignore the whole matter, as if it were no more real than just a very bad nightmare you awoke from?

In this blog, I’ll help you understand how necessary the idea of forgiveness is for you, giving you a three-step analysis to work through. Keep reading…

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Communicate About Affair Feelings

March 12th, 2012

So you and your spouse can’t seem to talk about the affair without a major emotional blow-up happening each time.

That’s perfectly understandable. At the same time, you know you’re stuck in a relationship limbo until you can communicate your feelings about the affair. Once you feel you’ve gotten your feelings across and release some of the pain, maybe you can move forward and start to rebuild your marriage.

In this blog, I’ll offer you 3 tips for communicating about the affair so you can find some pain relief. Please keep reading….

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What Makes a Good Apology? 4 Key Elements.

March 8th, 2012

If your partner has done the unimaginable, such as have an affair, what makes an apology from him or her a good one, that allows you to heal from the pain and rebuild your marriage?

There’s an art to an apology—and not everyone is good at it. There are even some people who are incapable of apologizing: it would simply cost them too much to admit to being wrong.

In this blog, we’ll explore the art of the apology, and I’ll offer you some ideas on how to recognize a good apology: it includes 4 key elements. Please keep reading…

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Confronting a Suspected Cheater

February 20th, 2012

You may have a sixth sense that something isn’t quite right with your spouse, and you may suspect he/she is cheating. Your gut is telling you… something is off.

Maybe your spouse is sprucing up a bit more before going to work. Or, they’ve gone from a depressive state to elated—for no apparent reason.

If you suspect your spouse is cheating, you may feel torn about confronting them with your suspicions. In this blog, I’ll give you three considerations for confronting the issue—and your spouse—head on. Keep reading…

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Genetic Predisposition to Cheat?

February 13th, 2012

If there were a test you could take to see if your spouse (and you) has a genetic predisposition to cheat… would you make your spouse take it?

This is a really difficult question to answer. On the one hand, everyone likes assurances in life, if you can get them. On the other hand, possessing such knowledge could drive you insane, right?

In this blog, we’ll explore some potential new genetic testing that could become available, the dangers of such testing, and 3 tips to avoid thinking you’d ever need such a test. Read on…

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Unprotected Marriages are Affair-Susceptible

December 14th, 2011

Do you want to know one way affairs often happen?

It can happen through an innocent act that crosses an invisible boundary, such as a well-meaning hug, or time spent with someone outside of the marriage who is just a friend, but of the opposite sex.

How do you protect your marriage so it is not affair-susceptible—and still be able to talk to and spend time with people outside of your marriage? In this blog, I will offer you a 3-step process for protecting your marriage first. Keep reading…

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