Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

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When are Little White Lies Okay?

June 1st, 2016

Lies… no one wants to be lied to, but are there times when you think the proverbial “little white lie” is a good thing?

There are some people who say that a lie is a lie and has no place in your interactions with anyone.

There are others who say just the opposite: there are times when a white lie is appropriate.

So, where do you draw the line?

In this blog, we’ll take a closer look at the little white lie, and these two differing viewpoints. Read on…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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Do You Have Mistrust Triggers?

March 9th, 2012

Do you find yourself unable to believe a word out of your spouse’s mouth? Can’t tell the truth from the lies anymore?

If your spouse has broken your trust, you have good reason to be mistrustful. That’s your instincts trying to rediscover the lay of the land, armed with this new knowledge that your spouse is capable of being deceitful–and your instincts are trying to protect you from further hurt.

Many victims blame themselves for believing their spouse–and then getting duped.

In this blog, we’ll look at your mistrust triggers–and I’ll give you three steps to move forward, away from them. Read on…

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Suspicious He Cheated?

February 15th, 2012

Are you suspicious that he cheated? Has he (or she) cheated before, and now you worry that you’re going to have to relive the nightmare again?

Suspicions can haunt you day and night, whether you have evidence for them or not. And if this is what you’re currently experiencing, you are dealing with one of the most complex and challenging parts of healing from an affair.

In this blog, I am going to teach you how to develop a “suspicion filter.” Keep reading…

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Is Your Spouse Addicted?

February 10th, 2012

Internet access, picture cell phones… technology has created some interesting sexual-addiction opportunities. You may have thought your sex life was “normal,” and then come across something that challenged that view, whether it’s your spouse’s interest in internet porn or a stash of pornographic magazines and DVDs.

Now, you may be confused, wondering if your spouse is a sex addict.

Sexual addiction is a complex topic. In this blog, we’ll examine one way in which sex addicts try to justify their behavior so if you hear this excuse, you can take proactive steps to help him overcome the addiction and heal your marriage using 2 steps. Read on…

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Eliminate Mistrust (in 3 Steps)

January 6th, 2012

You find out your spouse cheated, and suddenly you’re wondering what else is a lie. Is your relationship really what you thought? Have they been sleeping around more than they’ve admitted to? What else are they into?

As the victim of your spouse’s affair, you’re in torment, trying to find out what’s right, what’s wrong—and how to survive this devastation.

In this blog, I’ll help you overcome the horrible mistrust that has occurred due to the affair using 3 steps for setting a new course in your marriage. Read on…

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Trust in Relationships: Why Betrayal Hurts

December 21st, 2011

Trust in relationships is not something to be taken for granted. So when a spouse betrays you, they’ve lost so much more than they could have imagined. What may at the time be justified as just a little thing, or something that happened only once, can cause damage that expands like ripples in a pond for years and years.

After so many hurtful lies you have not only lost your trust in your spouse, but you have grown distant from him or her. The intimacy is disappearing, and you don’t know how to reconnect.

In this blog, we’ll look at why betrayal hurts when trust in relationships is broken and the 3 benefits of opening up and expressing your thoughts and feelings to each other again. Keep reading…

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Marriage Infidelity: 3 Steps to End the Lies

December 16th, 2011

Marriage infidelity introduces ugliness into a relationship well beyond any problems that may have existed there before. When your spouse cheats, the affair victim’s trust has been violated—and you don’t know how you’ll move forward past the marriage infidelity to rebuild your relationship.

You can’t have an intimate, trusting marriage when your spouse lies to you—and continues to do so.

In today’s blog, I offer 3 tips to help rebuild your marriage so you can move on from marriage infidelity and ending the lies. Keep reading…

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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