Cheating men (and women) have one thing in common: they’ve lied to their spouse, if not in word, then most definitely in deed – and their spouse wants to know how to end the lies.
If you have been lied to by your partner, you probably feel devastated. You may be struggling with emotions such as overwhelming anger, sadness, grief and depression, your head whirling with negative thoughts and images.
It’s not uncommon for affair victims to ask how to end the lies that have overtaken their marriage. In this blog, we’ll look at three tips. Read on…
Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.
But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.
It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.
In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.
Do you want to know one way affairs often happen? Let me tell you a story.
John and Shirley were friends with Tom and Debbie. Debbie, Tom’s wife, worked in the same office building as John, so they often went out to lunch together.
These lunch meetings weren’t secret. Shirley and Tom both knew about them. In fact, no one thought much of it, because they were all such good friends and the situation seemed “safe.”
One day Debbie met John for lunch in tears. She and Tom were having problems in their marriage. To try and console her, John gave Debbie a hug. The hug went on a few moments too long and Debbie and John both felt a spark.
When the Honesty Crumbles .
Have you been suffering through a storm of lies and deceit in your marriage? Are you wondering, at this moment, whether or not you can trust what your spouse is telling you about where he is, who he’s with, or what he’s doing? If so, then you’ve probably realized one important truth about relationships:
Honesty and trust are as important as love for a truly wonderful marriage.
It’s true. I know a lot of people out there will tell you that a relationship can’t exist without love; that love is the foundation of a good marriage. And I would agree. But sometimes people who focus exclusively on the importance of love overlook how critical honesty and trust are in a relationship.