70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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The #1 Reason to NOT Bottle Up Your Pain

April 28th, 2011

Did you know that not expressing your pain to your spouse could increase your risk for serious diseases, such as heart disease and cancer?

As a victim of cheating, what has been unleashed on you is a world of hurt. And one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have is finding the words to tell your spouse how terribly hurt you are by their affair. The affair has devastated you—emotionally, psychologically – and even physically. You may feel a tremendous amount of stress and pressure.

You need to communicate these feelings and emotions to your spouse—for the sake of your marriage—and for your personal health. In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for making this conversation happen.

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Follow These 4 Guidelines to Help Strengthen Marriage Communication

October 19th, 2010

You say to your spouse, “I want to fix things between us, save our marriage and make it work.”

But your communication skills may be falling short in an unexpected area: what you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track by following 4 guidelines.

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The One Marriage Skill Your Family Pet Can Teach You

June 30th, 2010

Does your dog listen better than your spouse?

According to an Associated Press poll, a third of married women, and 18 percent of married men, find their pets to be better listeners than their spouse. If you feel disconnected from your spouse or are struggling in your marriage, it’s pretty likely the underlying culprit is a failure to communicate.

During this article we’re going to discuss 3 communication principles you can use right now to improve how you and your spouse talk.
When the communication in your marriage has been reduced to “yes,” “no,” and grunted-out lists of items you need from the grocery store, your marriage is in danger of hitting the proverbial wall—and worse. In this blog, I’ll give you a few tips that Dr. Gunzburg gave in a recent interview on the topic of how to enhance communication and reconnect with your partner.

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