Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

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The Link Between Anger and Forgiveness

June 15th, 2016

Forgiveness is a challenge, and there is one obstacle in particular that could be preventing you from extending forgiveness to a partner who has wronged you.

That one obstacle is anger. Where anger lurks, forgiveness isn’t likely to occupy the same space.

For the victim, there is a process you must move through to get past the obstacle and into a place where you can either offer forgiveness or not—and be at peace with both your decision and where you are.

In this blog, I’ll tell you more about the process, as well as offer you 2 tips to move forward past the anger and into a space where you can decide if forgiveness is something you even want to offer. Read on…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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Marriage Infidelity: 3 Steps to End the Lies

December 16th, 2011

Marriage infidelity introduces ugliness into a relationship well beyond any problems that may have existed there before. When your spouse cheats, the affair victim’s trust has been violated—and you don’t know how you’ll move forward past the marriage infidelity to rebuild your relationship.

You can’t have an intimate, trusting marriage when your spouse lies to you—and continues to do so.

In today’s blog, I offer 3 tips to help rebuild your marriage so you can move on from marriage infidelity and ending the lies. Keep reading…

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Take A Different Route to Forgiveness

November 11th, 2011

Your spouse betrayed you. Maybe it was infidelity, or maybe they broke faith with you by systematically lying about who they were or what they were doing.

If this describes the current state of your marriage, you are facing one of the most difficult challenges any married person has to cope with. You’re desperately looking for a way to forgive your spouse so you can move on with your life and have the wonderful marriage you have always hoped for.

In today’s blog, I will take you along the road to forgiveness. Whether it is your final destination, only you can decide. But there is one positive stop you can make along the way, and the 3 steps it will take to get there. Read on…

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How to Save Your Marriage through Honesty

September 16th, 2011

Most spouses can forgive a lot of shortcomings in a marriage.
But what about lies and deceit?
When we tell anything less than the truth in our relationships, we are asking a lot from our spouse to forgive us, to believe in us, to trust our words and our actions. To save your marriage, you need honesty, truth and openness.
A common question that relationship experts get is, “How can I make my spouse tell the truth?” In this blog, we’ll examine this question, review a child’s fable, and see how to save your marriage by making a change and implementing a method for honesty. Read on…

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Ask for This to Rebuild Trust After the Affair

May 18th, 2011

Anyone can be duped by a good liar. Were you?

As the victim of an affair, you were duped to some degree, either through outright tall tales, or the withholding of information and carrying out of deceptive actions.

If you want to save your marriage and rebuild trust and honestly, read on to learn two reassurances you can ask for from your cheating spouse to help you trust once again.

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Is Your Spouse Lying, or Telling the Truth?

February 21st, 2011

Your spouse lied in order to carry on an affair, whether it was one time or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission, or some combination of the two.

Now you’re trying to reconcile with your spouse and save your marriage. But the question lingers: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she telling the truth—this time?

In this blog, we’re going to explore the after-effects of lying as related to an affair, and the 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty in an effort to save your marriage and survive the affair.

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Guidelines for Creating a Code of Transparency in your Marriage

January 24th, 2011

The trust you had in your spouse has been ruptured. You want to save your marriage, yet, you don’t know how to find a way to trust your partner again.
But if you don’t—you realize that will mean the end of your marriage. You’re in a stalemate: you don’t trust your spouse, and your spouse doesn’t know how to make you believe what they’re saying, and you keep waiting to know that your spouse is being honest with you.
That’s where your attempts to save your marriage may be faltering: what you’re focusing on. Read on to learn the basic guidelines for rebuilding trust—by establishing a Code of Transparency.

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Are Mistrust Triggers Killing Your Marriage?

April 20th, 2010

How to Know Your Spouse Isn’t Lying

“I’m having a hard time believing a word that comes out of his mouth,” said Ann. “When I think back to the time before I knew the truth of the affair, and how effortlessly those lies came when I’d ask why he was late getting home, well, I don’t know how I can ever trust him again. How do I know he isn’t lying?”

Ann found herself unsure of her ability to know the truth from the lies. She struggled with the blow to her self-esteem in being unable to know she was being deceived. Believing her spouse was late coming home for the reasons he gave had caused her to feel inadequate in protecting herself, unable to spot the lies when they first occurred.

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