You and your spouse could have a disagreement that begins like this:

One of you has just received a bonus check from work. Your spouse thinks it should be spent on a nice vacation. You say it should be placed into savings in case the hot water heater goes.

You both offer good reasons to support your stance. He says, “We work hard, and deserve some time away as a reward.” You say, “Sure we do, but I also don’t want to take cold showers when the water heater finally goes!”

Both of you have a strong opinion, neither of you will give an inch, and every encounter you have becomes an opportunity to further advance why you’re “right.” Each of you digs in your heels. What starts out as a simple argument escalates into a full-blown battle. The unity of your relationship is jeopardized as you both become more entrenched on your own “side.” Heated arguments and steamy silences ensue, and a divide develops between you.

You’re at a standstill and neither of you wants to give up your position. What then?

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