Cheaters Justify their Behavior

June 17th, 2015

Cheaters tend to tell themselves a story about their behavior. They justify their actions, and make you feel as if you’re crazy.

For a lot of people, they simply aren’t sure where the lines of cheating are. They have gotten their ideas from movies, songs, second-hand stories… but most people don’t sit down and figure out what the true depth of cheating is.

Also, your spouse may have a small view of what makes cheating actual “cheating” because they don’t want to admit that their actions could be defined as such.

In this blog, I’ll give you the definition of cheating, so you and your spouse will not have any miscommunication about exactly where the lines are—and why their behavior is destroying your marriage. Please read more…

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Want to Save Your Marriage? Take the Lead.

June 15th, 2015

Your marriage is in crisis, either from an affair, neglect—or a relationship-deadly combination of both.

You may be waiting for your spouse to make a move: let him or her make amends, fix the problems in your marriage, turn things around.

Don’t hold your breath.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why, and give you 3 tips to save your marriage, before you slide into divorce court wondering “what happened?” Please keep reading…

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Is the Paramour Better than You?

June 8th, 2015

What could be more torturous for an affair victim than to think they somehow don’t measure up to the paramour?

No one wants to feel second best, or undesirable, especially not to the person you’ve given your hand in marriage to. Yet, many husbands and wives who’ve been cheated on wonder what’s wrong with them to make their spouse want to stray in the first place.

In this blog, we’ll examine some of the obsessive thoughts that can occur about the paramour—and 3 tips for how to focus on yourself and rebuild your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Marriage: Better than Before?

June 3rd, 2015

Your spouse’s cheating can almost destroy the foundation of your marriage.

Despite the devastation, many victims of an affair have a desire to save their marriage. The affair is like a bad dream, a tough obstacle to overcome. An affair victim may think, “I have invested many years with this person—sacrificing, negotiating and accommodating—why should I give all that effort away to someone else? I want things to go back to the way they once were.”

In this post, I’ll show you why going “back” may not be the best direction for you, and give you some steps to move your efforts forward to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Once A Cheater, Always…?

June 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage, but one question keeps playing in your head: “once a cheater, always a cheater?”

While many believe that a cheater can never change, we as humans have an enormous capacity to make positive changes. Does this mean your spouse definitively won’t cheat again?

In this blog, I’ll give you three indications of a right and narrow path on the part of your spouse that you can look for so to determine what your spouse may do in the future. Read on…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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Jealousy: Undermining Marriage-Saving Efforts?

May 20th, 2015

A spouse’s affair can cause you to doubt your worth and flat-line your self-esteem. The betrayal inflicts deep wounds, causing seemingly unceasing psychological turmoil.

As you work to survive the affair, and maybe you’re even trying to save your marriage, you may now watch your cheating spouse’s every move, looking for any sign that he or she is giving attention to someone else.

While some jealousy may be good, those jealous feelings can also backfire and jeopardize your efforts to save your marriage.

In this blog, let’s look at jealousy, and I’ll give you 3 tips on how to wield it wisely. Please read on…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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Post-Affair Marriage Success

May 6th, 2015

What makes a marriage successful, especially post-affair?

How about taking a break from all the bad things that have been going on in your relationship and focusing your attention on something else, at least after the initial pain of the affair has been managed?

In this blog, I’ll tell you about a finding from relationship research that can help you in rebuilding your marriage, post-affair. In addition, I’ll help you build up the positives once again in your life as you work to heal from the affair. Please read on…

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Picking Up the Pieces Post-Affair (Build This)

April 29th, 2015

When your spouse cheats, an immediate rift appears between the two of you.

Even in the absence of an affair, a marriage bond can unravel when both spouses aren’t committed to maintaining, strengthening and building their emotional connection with each other. If your spouse has cheated, this connection suffers a devastating rupture.

In this blog, we’ll look at what it takes to repair the emotional connection and 3 rules you can use. Please keep reading…

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