Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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Save Your Marriage: Reignite Bedroom with…

April 13th, 2015

If your marriage is failing, what are you doing to spice things up and save your marriage from divorce?

There has been a lot of talk in the news recently about a book that is reigniting bedrooms everywhere: Fifty Shades of Grey is the title, and some of the controversy surrounding it is adding to its popularity.

In this blog, we’ll look at what you can do to spice up your love life with your spouse. Please keep reading…

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The Power-Booster that Saves Marriage

April 1st, 2015

You want to save your marriage?

Then help your marriage by giving it a powerful boost: building it on a framework of transparency. This means you and your partner commit to being completely open about every aspect of your individual lives—especially if your spouse has cheated.

In this post, I’ll help you rebuild your marriage and strengthen communication between you and your spouse, utilizing the power booster of transparency. Read on…

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The 3 Steps for Regaining Security, Post-Affair

March 25th, 2015

Presently, after the affair, your world may feel untethered. You may have lost a sense of security that your marriage once provided and the feel of a firm foundation beneath you.

Perhaps you have a family to consider, children who could be negatively impacted by your cheating spouse’s decisions. You have your marriage to consider, asking yourself whether you should try to save your marriage. You may also have a job to juggle—your emotional pain and turmoil throwing off your ability to focus.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why it’s essential that you focus on yourself, and provide some steps you can take to dig deep and regain a sense of security that can only be found in you. Read on…

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Spouse Cheated: Now, What’s Best for You?

March 18th, 2015

Your spouse’s infidelity has provided you with something you didn’t expect: a chance to stop, take stock of your life, define what your needs are, discover who you are—and whether or not it’s who you want to be.

As a married person, life is usually too hectic, on a cycle of day-in, day-out, and you don’t think about your life and whether you or on track for what you want. An affair is a jolt to your world, forcing you to look at things with fresh eyes.

In this post, I’ll share with you the 3 steps you should take before you can take optimum advantage of this opportunity for self-discovery. Read on…

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The 3 Barriers to Forgiveness

March 16th, 2015

One of the most difficult decisions you’ll make post-affair—beyond whether or not to save your marriage—is whether or not to forgive your spouse.

The choice is yours, and there’s no right or wrong. You’ll either want to grant forgiveness, or it will be something you can’t abide the thought of doing.

In this blog, we’ll look at three barriers to forgiveness, if you find yourself stuck. Read on…

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Survive the Affair: Sidestep the Paramour-Comparison Temptation

March 11th, 2015

Your spouse’s affair has probably devastated your self-esteem. Like many affair victims, you may be plagued with thoughts of the other woman.

It’s additional pain to beat yourself up by comparing yourself to the paramour.

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that are coming from inside you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some tips for avoiding the paramour-comparison temptation and rebuilding your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Help: Reintroduce This into your Marriage

March 9th, 2015

Prior to the affair, your marriage had probably entered a deep rut. The affair has exploded onto your marriage scene like a bomb, with debris everywhere. You need post-affair help to clean up this mess your spouse has made.

A lot of couples who are working to survive an affair feel that it’s all bad news from that point on: there will be tear, recriminations, blame, resentment, anger.

No one is going to suggest that those elements won’t be present in a post-affair marriage. At first, you have a lot of rock ground to work through. However, at some point—if you decide to rebuild your marriage—you will need to move forward as a couple.

In this post, I’ll offer some ideas to help spring you free from the marital-rut your marriage had fallen into prior to the affair. Read on…

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Is “Someone New” Really the Answer to Marriage Problems?

February 18th, 2015

If you’re struggling in your marriage, it’s not unusual to look for the escape hatch. After all, we look for a new job when we struggle at work, or make other changes in our lives when the situation is uncomfortable.

So, why not a new spouse?

The idea of “someone new” is enticing. Imagine, entering a new relationship where no problems exist…

In this blog, I’ll talk about the idea of someone new, and give you two tips for healing your marriage and holding on to what you have. Keep reading…

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Are You Too Quick to Get Upset?

February 9th, 2015

Has your spouse ever accused you of getting “upset too easily,” or called you “touchy?”

If so, you may have a good excuse for getting upset more quickly than your spouse.

In this blog, we’ll explore why some get upset more quickly, and how to make two different reaction styles work in your marriage. Please keep reading…

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