3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

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Revive Your Spirit Post-Affair

June 22nd, 2016

Has your partner cheated?

If so, the post-affair fallout seems to be all on you… while your partner has seeming escaped relatively unscathed.

For the victim of an affair, their spirit can feel broken. And a broken spirit makes it challenging to get through each day, let alone begin the process of healing.

You may feel like you’re in survival mode and wonder when you’ll get back to your “real” life… the one where you feel good about yourself and about life in general once again.

In this blog, we’ll look at the effects of the post-affair trauma, as well as two spirit-rebuilding tips that can get you on the path to healing from an affair. Please keep reading…

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Has Your Partner Shut You Out?

June 8th, 2016

Your partner may seem distant, unengaged and uninterested in the relationship.

This can lead to you feeling shut out. You may even push for answers, asking “What’s wrong? Why won’t you talk to me? Why aren’t we close anymore?”

Unfortunately, this can sometimes backfire and cause your partner to shut down and shut you out even more.

So what recourse do you have?

In this blog, I’ll tell you what to do when your partner has shut you out, giving you 2 tips for opening the door once again to your partner’s heart. Please keep reading…

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He Cheated, And Now Has a Child…

February 3rd, 2012

He cheated, and that’s difficult enough to try to forgive, let alone forget. Even the smallest things might bring up painful memories: hearing about a movie star’s marriage break-up due to a spouse’s cheating, or seeing someone with the same name as the ex-paramour.

But what if you’re in this situation: your spouse and the ex-paramour have a child?

For the wife whose husband has cheated, this is constant torment. An affair is bad enough, but when there’s a child, the situation can become overwhelmingly complicated—unless you manage it.

In this blog, I will offer you the #1 rule to implement so you can manage this pain and move forward in rebuilding your life and your marriage. Keep reading…

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Cheating Spouses: Why Do They Do It?

December 30th, 2011

Are you desperately trying to understand why cheating spouses do what they do? If so, you aren’t alone. Affair victims almost always ask themselves this question at some point.

If you have gone through the trauma of finding out your spouse cheated, you probably want answers. The most basic question you want an answer to is, “Why?”

In this article I will be exploring an answer to this question. Please read on…

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Healing from Infidelity: 3 Steps to Empowerment

December 8th, 2011

Healing from infidelity means getting your own two feet solidly beneath you once again.

But healing from infidelity may seem unfathomable to you at the moment: what about all of this post-affair pain you’re going through?

In this blog, I want to provide you with 3 steps toward post-affair empowerment so that healing from infidelity takes place sooner rather than later. Please keep reading…

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How to Save My Marriage? – The Answer Inside

August 17th, 2011

Your marriage is either struggling mightily, or it’s experiencing the dark season of an affair. You are distraught, wondering if your marriage can survive the damage.

It’s easy to get caught in a vortex of negativity. After all, you are experiencing what is probably one of the most negative timeframes of your life – it’s normal to see your relationship and your life through a very dark lens at this time.

But doing so may lead you, and your spouse, to ask the wrong question about your marriage – and this could derail your marriage-saving efforts. In this blog, we’ll look at the wrong, and the right, question – and three steps to help get your marriage back on track. Keep reading…

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How to Deal with Infidelity and the Other Woman

August 3rd, 2011

A spouse’s affair can make you lose your identity. It can be such a shock to the system, you really don’t know what’s what anymore: who are you? Who is your spouse? Who is this paramour of your spouse?

Many affair victims become consumed with curiosity about their spouse’s lover. It can become an obsession, and if you’re the victim, you may find yourself feeling competitive against this person.

Let’s look at some warning signs that you’re competing against the paramour – and how it may be pushing your spouse away from rather than toward you.

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3 Red Flags Your Marriage-Saving Effort is Failing

July 27th, 2011

Either you or your spouse has had an affair, and it has devastated your marriage. Now, the mistake of the affair has been acknowledged, and you both wish to salvage what’s left of your relationship.

It’s not an easy fix. Many days you’ll feel as if it’s two steps back for every one step forward.

How do you gauge whether your rebuilding efforts are on track, or whether your efforts are doomed to failure? I’ll give you three red flags to be on the alert for which could signal the derailment of you and your spouse’s best efforts to save your marriage. To learn what those red flags are – and how to sidestep them – read more…

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