Affair Victims, Regain What You’ve Lost

August 5th, 2015

Dealing with the aftermath of your spouse’s affair is an emotionally-laden time. You’ve lost a lot as a result of your spouse’s cheating, maybe even your sense of self-respect and how you value yourself.

If your self-respect has been demolished, please know that you can regain it and feel strong once again. The affair was not your fault, so punishing yourself by doubting your worth is something you will need to let go of.

In this blog, I’ll give you 3 keys to get you started on your return to a sense of self-worth and respect for the great person you are. Keep reading…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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Cheaters Never Win: The Tally of Loss

January 9th, 2012

There’s a saying that “cheaters never win and winners never cheat.” Yet, many spouses cheat and think they’re going to somehow win it all—their home life plus something “fun” on the side.

As the victim of a cheater, you are actually in a better frame of mind than your cheating spouse: you can see how he or she will one day wake up and realize just how badly they’ve lost.

In this blog, we’ll explore how you can strengthen yourself and survive your tally of loss while your spouse still has their feet in a fantasy world. Keep reading…

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Cheated On: 3 Ways to Erase Post-Affair Anger

December 26th, 2011

Have you been cheated on and since turned into an “angry” person?

The majority of people who have been cheated on will experience anger as of the many emotions they feel after finding out about their spouse’s affair. And for some, they find that, where they were once a happy person, they now feel angry all the time—and people are noticing.

Today’s blog will help you, if you’ve been cheated on, to defuse post-affair anger 3 different ways, as well as offer an explanation for why anger is lingering. And if you haven’t been cheated on but still experience bouts of anger in your relationship with your spouse, the same tips can help you, as well. Read on…

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After the Affair, Picking Up the Pieces

November 4th, 2011

After the affair, you may find yourself still trying to pick up the pieces of your marriage many months later—and not getting anywhere with your spouse.

Your spouse may be resistant to making changes, for whatever reason. And it seems the more you try to make him or her change, the more resistant they become. You are left feeling frustrated, tired and alone—and like no progress has been made at all in saving your marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to go about picking up the pieces after the affair has devastated your life—and move forward to a point where you feel progress really has been made. Keep reading…

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Research Finds Cheating Can Release This into Marriage

June 8th, 2011

A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.

Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.

And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.

Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.

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Are You Emotionally Literate?

May 25th, 2011

After you found out your spouse cheated on you, any doubts that have ever been in the background of your mind about your decision to marry your spouse come roaring to the forefront.

If you had doubts before, the affair has cemented them in your mind. You think, “I never did really understand my spouse, and my spouse certainly doesn’t seem to get me. Maybe we shouldn’t have married…”

And yet, you more than likely want to save your marriage. So refrain from regretting the past and look toward building your future. It’s possible to survive an affair and build a strong relationship—using a method I’ll share with you so you can better communicate the emotions you are feeling. Read on…

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After the Affair: How to Eliminate the Negative Images

May 12th, 2011

Imagine being chained to a chair in front of your television, forced to watch a disturbing series of horror-drenched shows that are upsetting and leave you emotionally distraught. You struggle, but you’re unable to break away from viewing them.

Welcome to this scenario’s equivalent: post-affair images.

Learn how to yank the plug on these horrific, affair-induced images—and reclaim your interior, mental television. Keep reading for your negative image elimination plan.

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Break the Negative Thought/Negative Emotion Connection

May 5th, 2011

They’re insidious, all-consuming and nasty. What are they? The storm of negative thoughts that has moved into your head and taken control. And if you don’t get a handle on them, you may begin to think you’re going crazy.

Not only do you feel angry and betrayed, but you also feel you’ve lost control of your most private sanctuary: your own mind.

You deserve to have back that inner sanctuary. In today’s blog, we’ll look at the connection between negative emotions and negative thoughts. And, I’ll give you two steps for calming the negative thought storm that is destroying your peace and sense of sanity. Read on.

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Surviving Infidelity and the Emotional Pain

April 14th, 2011

Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.

But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.

It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.

In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.

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