Reframe Failure, Save Your Marriage

June 22nd, 2011

So your spouse cheated on you, and now your marriage is neck-deep in crisis mode. You may feel like a failure: your marriage may very well be over, and everything you put into it was for nothing.

This experience has left you looking at the world through a very dark lens.

Are you an unworthy, broken person – and this is why you are in this predicament today, a victim of infidelity? Read on for the answer to this question.

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Surviving Infidelity and the Emotional Pain

April 14th, 2011

Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.

But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.

It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.

In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.

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Coping with Infidelity and the Neglect Justification

March 24th, 2011

Cheaters can’t always say why they stepped outside of their marriage and had an affair. They’re probably not very sure themselves of the “reason” why.

When it comes to cheating, there is no clear reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But victims of affairs always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at just 2 needs found within a marriage, and I’ll provide you with conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage.

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