Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

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Overcome the Pain of Affair Memories

July 6th, 2016

If you are an affair victim, you may feel as if you’ve barely survived one of the worst times of your life.

But you have survived. The worst is over, that initial blow, right?

Unfortunately, you may still be living through the worst… being plagued by affair memories can destroy your peace of mind and make it harder to achieve any progress on the road to healing.

How do you break free from this seemingly endless cycle of emotional despondency?

In this blog, we’ll look at the emotionally-laden memories that may be causing you pain, and I’ll give you 3 things you can do to overcome those painful memories so you can begin healing. Please read more…

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Forgiveness: Is it Possible? (3 Tips)

March 1st, 2012

You can recover from an affair, but is forgiveness necessary for your healing?

If you feel it is something you must be able to do in order to heal, do you know how to forgive after an affair?

In this blog, let’s examine how to forgive after an affair—if it’s at all possible. Also, 3 tips to help you with this question as you work to heal from the affair pain. Keep reading…

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How to Cope with Painful Memories of the Affair

May 4th, 2010

“We’ve been working on rebuilding our marriage for several months now,” said Tina. “But I’m having a hard time coping with the memories from that whole dark episode in our marriage. It’s been almost ten months since I found out about the affair.

The period surrounding that time was one of the worst of my life, from a year before Dan’s fling when we weren’t getting along, to the days and early months after I found out. It continues to haunt me, in the background of every effort we’re making to save our marriage. I just want to get rid of these memories. Isn’t there some way to hit the ‘delete’ button so I can be free of them, once and for all?”

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When Images of the Affair Haunt You

January 19th, 2010

“I have these awful images of the affair, and I can’t seem to make them stop. They just keep playing over and over again like a horror film. I see him with her doing . unnamable things . It feels like I am slowly going crazy .”

I hear my clients say things like this all the time. They are haunted by images of their spouses cheating with the paramour-even when they have no idea what the paramour looks like or what the two of them might have done together.

Despite their best efforts to stop this barrage of painful images they can’t seem to shut off their mental movies.

It’s one of the awful, though not at all uncommon, outcomes of being injured by an affair.

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