70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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Jealousy: Undermining Marriage-Saving Efforts?

May 20th, 2015

A spouse’s affair can cause you to doubt your worth and flat-line your self-esteem. The betrayal inflicts deep wounds, causing seemingly unceasing psychological turmoil.

As you work to survive the affair, and maybe you’re even trying to save your marriage, you may now watch your cheating spouse’s every move, looking for any sign that he or she is giving attention to someone else.

While some jealousy may be good, those jealous feelings can also backfire and jeopardize your efforts to save your marriage.

In this blog, let’s look at jealousy, and I’ll give you 3 tips on how to wield it wisely. Please read on…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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Divorce: When is it the Answer?

May 4th, 2015

Are you and your spouse considering a divorce?

Maybe your spouse cheated, and you don’t believe your relationship can survive the affair. Or, you’ve simply lost that loving feeling for one another.

How do you know divorce is the right thing to do?

In this blog, we’ll explore how to answer that question for yourself and your marriage. Read on…

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Cheated On, Tortured by Images

January 18th, 2012

You’ve been cheated on, and you may have a slew of disturbing images invading your every waking thought: horrible affair images of your spouse with the paramour, talking, laughing, getting physical…

It may feel as if you have no power over these images—they’ve taken over and don’t seem to want to let go.

In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for exiting this horror movie of post-affair images. Please keep reading for relief…

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3 Red Flags Your Marriage-Saving Effort is Failing

July 27th, 2011

Either you or your spouse has had an affair, and it has devastated your marriage. Now, the mistake of the affair has been acknowledged, and you both wish to salvage what’s left of your relationship.

It’s not an easy fix. Many days you’ll feel as if it’s two steps back for every one step forward.

How do you gauge whether your rebuilding efforts are on track, or whether your efforts are doomed to failure? I’ll give you three red flags to be on the alert for which could signal the derailment of you and your spouse’s best efforts to save your marriage. To learn what those red flags are – and how to sidestep them – read more…

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Why Men Cheat: Are Wives Too Needy?

July 20th, 2011

After your spouse’s affair was revealed, you may have found yourself full of self-doubts. In fact, your spouse may have expressed that he or she thinks you’re being “too needy.”

If so, it probably made you feel even sicker inside than you already do, and planted a seed of self-doubt: Am I too needy? And if so, where has my power gone?

In this blog, we’ll explore what being ‘needy’ is and what it stems from. Read on to see if you’re currently suffering from neediness syndrome…

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When Post-Affair Communication Stalls…

July 13th, 2011

Communicating with your spouse may have been an issue prior to your spouse’s affair. Maybe you had arguments that became heated, best described as the “knock down, drag out” variety with no holds barred.

After the shock of finding out your spouse cheated, and the emotional upheaval that has left you reeling – communication may be at a standstill. Either you aren’t communicating at all, or worse: your communication is nothing but arguments and confrontation, where both sides are digging in, entrenched in their need to be “right.” When you argue with your spouse, it may feel as if you’re defending your very life.

Find out what may be causing your communication to stall – now when, more than ever, you need to communicate well in order to rebuild your marriage, and what a leading researcher has found that can turn around the dismal communication between you and your spouse…

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Research Finds Cheating Can Release This into Marriage

June 8th, 2011

A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.

Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.

And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.

Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.

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The Hidden Danger in Rebuilding Honesty

June 1st, 2011

Is honesty really the best policy?

It’s a question that many of us may struggle with from time to time. But in a marriage – especially post-affair – honesty is a must-do. Without it, your marriage likely will not survive.

In this blog, we’ll look at honesty and its place in your marriage. But keep reading to discover two surprising dangers associated with adhering to “honesty is the best policy.”

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