A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.
Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.
And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.
Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.
Is honesty really the best policy?
It’s a question that many of us may struggle with from time to time. But in a marriage – especially post-affair – honesty is a must-do. Without it, your marriage likely will not survive.
In this blog, we’ll look at honesty and its place in your marriage. But keep reading to discover two surprising dangers associated with adhering to “honesty is the best policy.”
It’s hard to believe… after all you’ve been through together… You did so well together for so long. You’ve been married for years, maybe decades. You may have raised kids who are now grown and out of the house. You’ve most likely suffered through financial difficulties, family crises, and personal catastrophes.
And now you’re wondering if it’s all over. Has the marriage you have worked for and cherished for so long finally run its course? Is this really the end?
Coping with an affair (or other traumatic event in your marriage) is one of the most difficult emotional experiences a human being can have. It’s complicated by the fact that there are only two people who can really decide whether or not the marriage is over: you and your spouse. No one else can make this decision for you. In this article I want to explore why that’s true and give you some insight on ways to consider staying in or leaving your marriage.
You want to forgive your spouse. You probably want it more than anything in the world. You want to take the steps necessary so you can move past the awful pain you have endured and toward a relationship that is happy and full of love once more.
Perhaps you’ve even done some work on your relationship so you can move to that point. Maybe you have started down the path of acceptance and you are ready to move on with your marriage, but there is one thing still holding you back.
You’re terrified that your spouse might betray you again.
How can you forgive your spouse when the horrifying possibility exists that he or she will do it again?
“He seems to be doing all the right things, but he pulled the wool over my eyes before. Are there any signs that tell me whether or not he will cheat on me again?”
Are you haunted by thoughts like this? Do you wake up at night worried that your spouse will cheat again? Do you watch every one of his actions, like a hawk, trying to detect even the smallest sign that he or she is cheating again?
If so, you’re not alone.
You probably want to forgive your spouse. You probably want to “go back to the way things were.” You may even be committed to making your relationship better than it has ever been.