Help Cheating Spouse See: Paramour Isn’t All That

September 7th, 2015

Your spouse cheated on you with someone that they thought could fill some sort of hole they felt inside.

What does the paramour have that you don’t?

In this blog, we’ll look at the “allure” of a paramour—and, if you wish to save your marriage, 3 tips for helping your cheating spouse see the light. Please keep reading…

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Barriers to Post-Affair Healing

August 26th, 2015

As the victim of an affair, you may not be sure how to survive an affair, let alone overcome the barriers to healing you’ll encounter along the way. It is said that time is the true healer, but you are swimming in a sea of pain until sufficient time passes.

As the victim of your spouse’s affair, you may wonder if there is a way to make the process of healing go faster, or the formula for moving from this point of pain—or even if what you’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, you’ll learn how to survive an affair by facing down two monstrous emotions and strategies to cope with these post-affair healing barriers. Please read more…

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What Does Forgiveness Mean for YOU?

July 15th, 2015

If your spouse cheated and your marriage is in crisis, your days are more than likely involved with working on saving your marriage.

But the wounds inflicted by the revelation of infidelity may remain deep, with built-up anger and resentment over the breach of trust. You don’t know how you’ll ever get to the point where you are able to move forward and just forgive.

In this blog, let’s examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what forgiveness means to you. It may help you become unstuck, if that’s what you are feeling now. Please keep reading…

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Post-Affair Marriage: Better than Before?

June 3rd, 2015

Your spouse’s cheating can almost destroy the foundation of your marriage.

Despite the devastation, many victims of an affair have a desire to save their marriage. The affair is like a bad dream, a tough obstacle to overcome. An affair victim may think, “I have invested many years with this person—sacrificing, negotiating and accommodating—why should I give all that effort away to someone else? I want things to go back to the way they once were.”

In this post, I’ll show you why going “back” may not be the best direction for you, and give you some steps to move your efforts forward to save your marriage. Please read more…

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Post-Affair Help: Reintroduce This into your Marriage

March 9th, 2015

Prior to the affair, your marriage had probably entered a deep rut. The affair has exploded onto your marriage scene like a bomb, with debris everywhere. You need post-affair help to clean up this mess your spouse has made.

A lot of couples who are working to survive an affair feel that it’s all bad news from that point on: there will be tear, recriminations, blame, resentment, anger.

No one is going to suggest that those elements won’t be present in a post-affair marriage. At first, you have a lot of rock ground to work through. However, at some point—if you decide to rebuild your marriage—you will need to move forward as a couple.

In this post, I’ll offer some ideas to help spring you free from the marital-rut your marriage had fallen into prior to the affair. Read on…

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Go Ahead—Cheat!

March 2nd, 2015

If you really want to shake up your marriage and get it on the right track—it’s time to have an affair.

Gasp, sputter… what?

In this blog, I’ll explain what I mean, so don’t panic… In addition, I’ll give you 3 tips for rebuilding your marriage, from the ground up if necessary. Please keep reading…

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Is “Someone New” Really the Answer to Marriage Problems?

February 18th, 2015

If you’re struggling in your marriage, it’s not unusual to look for the escape hatch. After all, we look for a new job when we struggle at work, or make other changes in our lives when the situation is uncomfortable.

So, why not a new spouse?

The idea of “someone new” is enticing. Imagine, entering a new relationship where no problems exist…

In this blog, I’ll talk about the idea of someone new, and give you two tips for healing your marriage and holding on to what you have. Keep reading…

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Post-Affair Marriage: Starting with a Clean Slate

February 2nd, 2015

Your marriage has been wrecked by an affair. From the ruins and ashes caused by your spouse’s selfish behavior, a new—and improved—relationship can be born.

But from where you’re presently standing, you may not be able yet to visualize such a thing.

In this blog, I’ll give you a glimpse of what the future of your marriage can look like, starting from a clean slate. Please keep reading…

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Cheaters Learn the Truth about Affairs

April 9th, 2012

Some cheaters will admit that they felt they may be “missing out” on something by being married. So, your spouse’s answer to that idea was to have an affair.

But, cheaters soon find out the truth.

In this blog, I’ll tell you what the vast majority of cheaters discover, and 3 tips for rebuilding your marriage after an affair. Keep reading…

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What Makes a Good Apology? 4 Key Elements.

March 8th, 2012

If your partner has done the unimaginable, such as have an affair, what makes an apology from him or her a good one, that allows you to heal from the pain and rebuild your marriage?

There’s an art to an apology—and not everyone is good at it. There are even some people who are incapable of apologizing: it would simply cost them too much to admit to being wrong.

In this blog, we’ll explore the art of the apology, and I’ll offer you some ideas on how to recognize a good apology: it includes 4 key elements. Please keep reading…

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