When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?
Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.
In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.
Your spouse’s cheating has the effect of pulling the rug out from under you while also crumbling the foundation of your marriage and annihilating your vows to one another.
Despite the devastation, many victims of an affair have a desire to save their marriage, with the affair being just a very excruciating bump in the road. They think, “I have invested many years with this person—sacrificing, negotiating and accommodating—why should I give all that effort away to someone else? I want things to go back to the way they once were.”
In this post, I’ll show you why going “back” maybe isn’t such a hot idea, and give you some steps to get your efforts to save your marriage moving forward toward a stronger, healthier, happier marriage.
You may feel like your life imploded when you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair. The news rocked your feelings of stability and safety in the marriage. Your biggest question at the moment may be:
Should I go to counseling with my spouse, or should I drive straight over to the divorce lawyer?
In this post, I’ll help you answer this question by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself as you decide whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.