Betrayed and Confused? 2 Tips…

July 13th, 2016

Has your partner betrayed you, and now you’re confused about what to do first.

Your partner may be pushing for reconciliation and forgiveness. You’re still trying to negotiate the emotional turmoil of discovering the person you loved and trusted has done something to betray that love and trust.

You may be torn: on the one hand, you would like to forgive your partner so you can just move on and forget this ever happened. On the other hand, you want to throw things, scream out your pain and make your partner really understand what their betrayal feels like.

In this blog, we’ll look at what leads to the confusion after being betrayed and 2 tips for what you could do first. Please read on…

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

How Much Should You Tell About Relationship Problems?

May 2nd, 2016

When we’re hurting or struggling in our relationship with our partner, there’s a natural inclination to want to talk to others about that pain.

Talking with friends and family is a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain… they are, after all, your support network. But where should the line be when it comes to discussing the more intimate details of your relationship problems?

You may want to think it through before you decide to confide in your support network.

In this blog, we’ll look at the pluses and the minuses of confiding in others, and 2 tips for securing the type of support that works best for you. Read on…

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Are You Sure You Want a Divorce?

September 28th, 2015

If you recently found out your spouse cheated, you may feel that’s it: you want a divorce.

Whether a divorce is right for you is something only you can answer.

In this blog, we’ll look at why the decision shouldn’t be made in the early days of the post-affair revelation, and 3 steps for making your choice. Read on…

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Spouse Cheated: Should You Tell Anyone?

September 21st, 2015

After you discover your spouse cheated, you may feel a great deal of shame and embarrassment.

It’s a natural reaction—but it can leave you feeling immobilized and cut off from the rest of the world.

In this blog, I’ll explain why it’s not a good idea to suffer in silence, but also, to be selective about whom you decide to confide in. Please keep reading…

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , ,

How Should You Handle Affair Details?

April 8th, 2015

After your spouse’s affair struck a mortal blow to the very heart of your marriage, you know you need a tremendous amount of “life support” to save your marriage.

Your marriage has no chance of surviving the infidelity until you satisfactorily resolve how you will handle the details of the affair.

You and your spouse, with committed effort, can survive an affair. But you need to decide how to discuss these painful details—or even if you should, and how to handle them if you do.

In this post, I’ll provide you with 3 steps that will help you make this far-reaching decision. Keep reading…

Continue reading…

, , , , ,

Research Finds Cheating Can Release This into Marriage

June 8th, 2011

A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.

Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.

And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.

Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

The One Ingredient Vital to Building—and Saving—Your Marriage

December 21st, 2010

Somewhere along its path, your marriage hit the skids, and may have been additionally rocked by an affair. If your marriage is in crisis, you know how your once-happy “union” can begin to feel like unpaid, overtime work.

There isn’t a way to not do the work when it comes to saving your marriage. But take heart: it doesn’t have to be all drudgery.

In this post, I’ll help you evaluate whether you’re taking advantage of one tactic for saving—and building—your marriage. Also, a plan to make sure you incorporate one crucial piece.

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Confiding in Family Can Doom Marriage Reconciliation

July 20th, 2010

If you’ve discovered your spouse has been involved in an affair, you can probably relate to the desire to confess their sins and wrong-doing to the people you feel are in your corner. But think twice before confiding the lurid details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family.

Pouring out your hurt, anger and disappointment to family and friends may be your first reaction, but in doing so, you could possibly doom any chance for reconciliation with your spouse. In this blog, we’ll explore whether confiding the affair to family and friends could kill your efforts to repair your relationship with your husband or wife—before you’ve even had a chance to work through the emotions you’re feeling and understand what it is you want.

You’re overwhelmed with emotions and want to lash out. You may find yourself bouncing between two extremes: the desire to hole up somewhere and privately nurse your wounds, yet also needing the embrace of the people you trust to love you and want what’s best for you, who will be there in your time of greatest need.

So what could possibly be wrong with reaching out to the other people in your life?

Continue reading…

, , , , , , , , , , ,